Thursday, December 20, 2012

Stop this Shame....


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We all know that in ancient Indian scriptures, woman was given a glarified status. She was an embodiment of shakti, no religion ceremony was complete without her.  Savitri, Parvati, Sita, Ahilya were the role models of Indian society.....In later days, during the freedom struggle Aruna Asaf Ali, Sarojini Naidu, Kasturba Gandhi, Sucheta kirplani and other women played excellent role for the libration of their motherland from the Britishers. They fought against all odds, so that at no point of time their commitment or energy could be derated with those of their male counterparts during those times.

With the advent of the technology dominated era and commercialism our women have also changed. The shy n not so bold female in the saree have been replaced by a youthful, fashion conscious and smart girl in jeans and T-shirts. Whenever needed they are more hard working and sincere in all the walk of life and more productive than their male counterpart and no one can deny that at present women have been playing major roles in politics, economy, household, society and nation building.

Today we have woman as a speaker of Lok Sabha, a woman chair person of the ruling coalition govt and not to mention that just couple of months back we had a woman President too. Not only this, recently when Saina Nehwal and Mary Kom came back with those glittering Olympic medals in their hands then there was a status update on social networking sites saying "Performance of Sania Nehwal and Mary Kom is enough proof to have more n more girl children in India...."

But unfortunately every time we start making an opinion that the condition of woman have improved, there is Guwahati or Delhi type of unfortunate incident, where a girl is molested n stripped by a mob or gang reaped and the status of women in the society suffers a jolt. The most important thing is, the incidents like Guwahati n Delhi makes one to believe that our women are not safe even in the educated urban environment.

There was a report  by The south Indian Council for Human Rights Education and Monitoring in Feb 2011 which says "One woman is molested every 26 minutes, One woman is raped every 34 minutes and one-fourth of the 15 million girls born every year don't even get to celebrate their 15th birthday....." Now after looking at this report one can easily understand that its not only Guwahti or Delhi which has witnessed such fateful incidents but such things have been happening in this country at regular intervals, irrespective of the states n cities....But as a human what do we do....???? 

Well, the moment such things happen, each of us start condemning it through all means, including dharnas, candle march etc.... Even our own blog world starts over flowing and showing its concern for the victim n their family but after couple of days or weeks, each of us get busy doing our own business and its the victim who only continue to suffer n goes through the mental trauma through out her life.....

I remember it was the same scenario when the girl was molested on the roads of Guwahati, everybody(sitting in dining room) was ready to kill the culprits, all the news channels were busy discussing the whole story day n night....it was like now or never....but what happened after few days, as usual every thing became normal for the entire nation.... Did anyone ever tried to peep into the life of the victim, how is she coping up with her life...???
Whether she got justice or not...???
Did any of us ever tried to know whether culprits got fixed or not....??? or,
Did we the Civilised Indians  ever came again on any social platform asking to the authorities that why culprits have not been fixed yet....???

No, we didn't... In fact, we never do that, perhaps we tend to forget such things very easily and its only get reminded to us when something similar happens somewhere again.....
Unless we change this attitude nothing will change.....


Its not that we lack the laws to protect women, in fact there are laws which literally protect them right from womb and through out their life. But the fact is, even after having these laws women continue to suffer at the hands of the system n society. Perhaps our great nation is still struggling to have proper mind set to use the laws and deal with those people who commit such sinful n brutal act....

Enough is enough.... 
The time for talk is over.... 
Its high time to take some action, to stop this shame.

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46 comments:

  1. Am seething with the similar rage. I dont kno the soln to this. I feel sick and weird .Not sure Whether world ends or not as per Mayans but humanity ENDED ages back !!

    I wish women have some power to chop off the penises when they r forced!! Ah I wish and only I CAN WISH

    Lets see if these criminals are hanged.. I would really love to see the youtube video of their DEATH

    somethng i wrote- http://afshan-shaik.blogspot.in/2012/12/if-you-are-draped-you-wont-be-raped-eh.html

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    1. can understand the sentiments there Afshan and its not only you or me but more or less entire nation(irrespective of gender) is going through the same sentiments....lets hope that this time nation don't gets to its normal routine life n this sentiment prevails till something is done by the authorities.....

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  2. every time another such incident come to light, i feel ashamed being a man.. i feel terrified even at the thought of being in the shoes of the victim.. its pathetic how morals are going down with every passing day.. these guys are sick.. they have no conscience.. no feelings.. no shame.. no words can ever describe the cruelty of such crime.. may God give wisdom to such soulless bodies..

    i pray to God to give a peace of mind to to the victim.. though i know deep inside that the scar inflicted upon her soul will never heal.. even if she survives the physical trauma, nightmares of the cruel incidence will come back to haunt her every single day of the rest of her life.. i feel sorry for her.. i wish i could do something.. but Alas.. i am helpless..

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    1. its not a MANLY act deepak and it can not be either.....and yes, its all bcoz of lack of moral values into our daaily life...lets hope things gets little better after this atleast.....insha allah.

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  3. Absolutely true! People’s mindset has to chance and learn to respect other lives thinking ourselves. Pain is something parallel for all, don’t know when those stray dogs going to know.

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    1. may Almighty show them right path and some sense prevail into them....Aameen.

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  4. Good point! But where do we start? One solution is to educate our daughters on self defense. Let us control what we can control - right?!

    It's overwhelming addressing it as an issue; but reasonable working on the precaution/prevention...

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    1. hhmmmm...agree with you NRI but how one can teach or learn self deffence to such an extent where lonely girl can overpower them when they are more in numbers n ready to go to any extreme.... so, what i feel is "its the authorities n govt agencies who can make things full proof and even if something similar happens then laws should be used n enforced in such a way so that it give a strong massege to all those and next time they don't even dare to do the same with someone else....but ufortunateely its not happening and there is hardly any case in which the culprits have been punished hard....so as an individual n a responsible parents we must look to for a way where we can raise our voices to punish the culprits without any delay and the authorities should be asked to take measures to prevent such ill happenings in furture, as far as possible..."

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  5. Who do think should take action - the politician ? The Lok Sabha ? The babu ? The policeman ? The High Court/Supreme Court ? The NGO's ? Who Who Who ? They only talk talk talk then simply forget after a couple of months.
    The only help is self help. Ladies should train in the art of self defense - karate/kung fu/boxing.Should be able to throw a punch.They should carry pepper sprays.Carry knives/guns. They should travel in a group at vulnerable hours. They should travel only in public transport & avoid private vehicles.

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    1. well, the innocent girl molested on the roads of Guwahati was neither travelling alone nor the time was vulnerable, above all there were many people spectators present too, even then it all heppened....and i don't think that even if she would have been master of all those arts you mentioned Sir, then she would be able to overpower all those(who did that with her)...so, if something can be done then it can be done collectively by the society n authorities who are responsible to take preventive steps and those who can take action on the culprits..... thats how i feel Sir :)

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  6. Yes , every issue has its short term space in the media, only to die a natural death. The TV channels keep screaming that we will follow the story till the end, but never keep their promises. We end up not knowing what action has been taken against the criminals, what happened to the victims. Every case is just discussed and then forgotten.
    I feel each time these criminals are let off scot-free, and we are never safe. Shame on us.

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    1. i think time has come to fight till end...otherwise who knows what will happen next........

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  7. Searing all the way. Teaching respect to our sons, husbands, brothers... teaching girls self defense, I just wish that this case just does not die again and something concrete really happens.. a strict and speedy punishment for the perpetrators.

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  8. We do have short memories and we do tend to avoid getting into 'controversies' involving others -- you see Irfan, we are cowards and till something hits us personally, we rarely rise out of those dining table chairs that you have so rightly mentioned. It starts with small injustices that we ignore and continue acting as if the guilty person is guilty only to the one harmed, not to us. This sense of self preservation and trying to look good in the eyes of the world is our undoing and so these things happen. On another note, I strongly feel that this goes deeper than the contempt towards women and is a psycho-sociological issue. But whatever it is, unless the great women leaders pontificating and giving elegant interviews take a stand, nothing is going to change. It is time for the Sonias, the Dixits, the Kumars and the Swarajs to act.

    Ooops, this comment has become as long as the post! Sorry, Irfan.

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    1. i wish these great personalities you mentioned are listening to all those shouts being done on the road and looking forward for some action.....

      well, nothing to worry about the length as long its subjective...so thanks a lot for adding your valuable thoughts here on this important issue.....thank you.

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  9. I think we need some solutions..long term ones..

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  10. Agree completely! We live in a world of virtual reality, a world where protests and rage multiplies with clicks but rarely results into real action. A few days later, it is the lone fight of the victim and we get back to our lives! Sad but true!

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    1. and this attitude changes into reallity i think we can't fight a long n fruitfull battle against all these..........

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  11. Very true what you said , no one bothers after the initial uproar , we seen it a lot many times .. no one bothers later..

    I dont know what to say anymore..

    Bikram's

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    1. and this is not at all a healthy sign for any society where we want to achieve something collectively.

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    2. no its not a healthy sign at all.. I said that because I feel I am alone .. and so do a lot others who are doing something or the other..

      I was talking to a friend of mine who were preparing to go to Delhi we were making some plans .. all of them said one line , We are alone..

      lot of people are doing things but they are all in small pockets.. TILL everyone Unites .. things wont change

      and to expect Those people who STOOD on the ROAD watching , doing nothing , Those who will FORGET this in 3 days times, THose who heard the news and then changed the channel to watch something else ..

      TILL these people change , things wont change .. Yes I will be here helping my friends back home in what they are doing as much as i can, yes there will be others doing the same in a different part of the nation , YES people will protest and all .. this will carry on BUT will this make a change .. NOW that is something to think about ..

      and this may sound very harsh or whatever but Till that POLICE OFFICEr who is in the picture hitting a girl protesting in delhi, IS stopped and SLAPPEd and asked to remove his uniform.. Till that doesnot happen dont know how the change will happen

      Sorry if i have gone on tangent, I have promised myuself not to get emotional on such things and write what my heart says but i sometimes get carried away

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  12. Respect your thoughts!
    Rare one empathize!

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  13. Despite these incidents women are going ahead. We have left to trained baby boy to respect ladies, we just providing food shelter and formal education but forgotten to educate in real sense.

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    1. i think that is a very important thing, to teach our youths to respect the other gender.

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  14. All these are sickening. The brutality makes me shudder. Every day there are crimes against small children, women and even elderly. What has this world come to? I demand action as well.

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    1. lets hope, this time they act.....insha allah.

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  15. If you study the law and provisions within,there do exist enough laws to handle this sickening crime.
    What is missing is the implementation of the law because politicians are the ones who are twisting legal provisions .You might like to check as to how many MPs have charges of rape against them?
    We have had enough of " Law will take its course"
    It won't.They won't allow it

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    1. agree with you totally Sir....and thats what i said above that we have laws to protect women from womb n through out their life but unfortunately they are not being implemented and the reason is these politicians....and unless this entire lot is replaced there are very remote chances of things to improve.

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  16. Like implementing strong anti corruption laws it would be difficult for them to introduce and implement strict laws against sexual crime against women. It would be very difficult for the power hungry people as they would miss a lot of their enjoyment. It seems some of the policemen are very jealous of the rapists. What to say ? even the most respected people in uniform are also not very far behind. There are hell lot of cases where the army men never missed any opportunity in places of insurgency. Also some of the common men never miss any opportunity during riots.

    Jahid,
    http://jahidakhtar.blogspot.in/

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  17. The places where these things have happened are cities and the girls are educated. One is a medical student and she travelled with a male friend. Still she was raped. The mentality of men should change. The slaughtering of female faetuses have started showing results. We don't find girls for our boys. This will aggravate the situation. Then what should we do? We should inculcate good morals in our sons from young age - to respect women, whether it is the mother, wife, sister or daughter. The head of the family should respect his wife like he does his mother. Love for daughter will always be there but the son should be taught to respect women. If his father does it, the son would follow.

    Will this change the mentality of cheap men?

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  18. Government is very quick in taking actions. And actions that they take is only limited to stop the protesters. I wonder what they will do ever in order to stop the reasons for protests that prevail openly today.
    Such incidents uncover the existence of beasts behind human face. And I mean it for both, the rapists as well as for the government who only plan Laws, and never put them together in order.

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  19. "MEN CAN NEVER IMPROVE IN INDIA"AND NOBODY HAS FEAR OF LAW..
    INDIA IS OWNED BY CRIPPLED PEOPLE ..HANDICAPPED ..SPASTIC PEOPLE WHO HAVE nO GUTS
    ..DISQUSTING!

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  20. indeed post...

    happy xmas and newyear

    thanks

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  21. Bollywood movies too have an adverse effect on spectator minds. So more inspirational themes are welcome.

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  22. Whenever I hear of such cases in India, it immediately comes to mind how many writer friends I have in this side of the world. That makes a lot of difference because I consider these writers 'awake in consciousness'. However, looking at the extreme side of what I know of Indians online, it bugs me to think that there are a bunch of 'real jerks' out there, the same thing there is in all parts of the world.

    I speak not on behalf of the Indians but of 'women' in general. We have been projected in so many cases as the 'adulterers' and 'seducers'~ I think people have to be led into another direction. Educate the youth, enough of the 'men rule the universe' crap. And perhaps, even teach people to lead deep inner lives. Dig the root and fix it.

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  23. Unless you cut the balls of the rapist, no other rapist will stop doing what he does best. And i mean literally.

    +To Me It Matters+

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  24. whatever steps to be taken, should be taken to see that such atrocity doesnt happen again... of course not easy... but strong signals should go to any such prowling 'animals'.

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  25. As someone said, People seem to worship Ma durga, but somehow there is no regard for the females by some people. A shame for the country indeed.

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  27. Sigh. It is so important to bring up our sons, and daughters, to respect all human beings, regardless of gender. Till then, laws, govt, etc, will all just be in name.

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