Friday, January 27, 2012

"Divorce..... is this the only solution left"



" Even in worst condition, taking a decision to save the institution of marriage is the most noble, brave and wisest thing to do "


When two persons join together in marriage, separation and divorce is never something they think about.... Love for each other comes naturally and they both care for each other...... In fact both of them start enjoying each other's company and with each n every actions and gestures they always try to say each other....."I love you" and "I always think of you".....

And that is how they live their life together with a plan of how to raise the family and grow their children while fulfilling all those social responsibilities....

But unfortunately, its not the same for every couple out there and you can find many couples whose marriage end up heading down the wrong path not too long after the honeymoon is over. Instead of learning how to sacrifice one's need for the sake of matrimonial bliss, they realize that marriage requires giving up some of the things they treasure and over a period of time there is some resentment built up between them.....As the days passes the communication between the two starts slowing down and soon they start realizing that they are not made for each other. 

As a result arguments start and all kind of horrible and dirty words start coming out of their mouth and slowly(without even knowing) they start heading towards a nasty divorce.....Finally a day comes when both of them or any one of them starts talking about seeking divorce :(

I do realize that there can be many reasons why they want to divorce their spouse and only the people in those marriages know what exactly the problem is or what exactly wrong happened in their specific circumstances, but I often think that "how could two people who were in love few days back, end up resenting and in some cases hating each other......."





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( PS: This post is the result of some unfortunate happenings with a couple known to me and both of them are very dear to me...i just wish n pray that things may get better in their future life )





Saturday, January 21, 2012

Friday, January 13, 2012

Sex Sells....


Looking at the title of this post, some of you might be thinking that what happened to this man who has been always writing about dry and boring subjects, is talking about SEX here....so let me make it clear that even today I am not going to write erotic stories or how to win your man or woman during the period because I personally believe that there is no bookish way to follow and win your loved one during the process but it all depends upon individuals and the mutual relation of the couples.....

Anyways, coming on to the subject..... I have been a regular reader of couple of leading political and current affairs magazines, but while going through one of the recent issue of such magazine, I thought like reading DEBONAIR  or something similar to that. There were full pages of Condoms advertisements and rest of the pages were carrying a survey report based on sexual life and behavior of today's India......

Now just to mention some of the survey results here.......
i :- 48% husbands say their ideal partner is not their wife.....
ii :- 55% men say there is more infidelity because of more women in the work place....
iii :- For 55% men their first sexual partner was other than their wife....
iv :- 24% are open to one night stand....
v :- 27% parents believe that their child is sexually active and above that 73% of them have accepted it and kept quite....

Now when I start looking into my surrounding and the people whom I know since decades, most of the couple look like an ideal match for each other, so if the survey is right then are these thousands of couple simply pretending to be ideal......well I don't think its possible to do so for decades....Do you think so....???

Now if infidelity is more because of more working women then I suggest these survey people to go to rural India and feel the pulse of the nation, I am sure    this    report will be proved wrong and it does not have to do anything with women at work place or not....

Similarly survey report claims that 24% women are ready for one night stand, well I don't know who these 24% women are because I am desperately looking for one and could not find any.... may be I am too old now......

Now the 73% of the total 23% parents are reported to be keeping quite and accepting that let their chidren be active sexually....now, do you all think that these many of Indian parents are that modern...and how many of you parents out here will accept it quietly.....if you ask me then "I CAN'T".... may be I am too orthodox or too old fashioned.....

Not only this, the learned editor of this premier magazine claims that "This survey is the most trusted indication of how Indian men and women pursue the intimate pleasure of life and it brings the larger story of Indian's private life".....

Now, i just like to ask this learned editor that "what useful purpose does it serve to conduct a sex survey in which you go to Metros and pick up just 5365 people and come up with a report claiming it to be India's picture as a whole????

Don't you think that these bogus surveys are bound to encourage our youth to give up their principles and go mad behind sexual pleasure????

How do you think that a mere 5365 respondents from metros are to stand statistically valid across the nation????

Well, i can understand that Sex sells and each one of you is determined to out do others with such issues and your sale graph might have gone up after this, butttttttt did you ever thought(even for a second) that based on such bogus reports, our youths are bound to think that there are good chances of getting involved in sexual pleasure in every city and one has to do only is take few chance.....???

Moreover while going through your report I felt that you seem to think that there is no holiness, moral character, respect for marriage n sex left now in society  and all of us are animals not humans anymore......

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