tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post7424201435852456983..comments2023-10-28T16:37:19.671+05:30Comments on APNiBOLi....: "Divorce..... is this the only solution left"Irfanuddinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comBlogger98125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-90765176532788942082012-04-10T10:08:35.790+05:302012-04-10T10:08:35.790+05:30Life after divorce is never been easy for the peop...Life after divorce is never been easy for the people who are living this moment.Divorce brings with it many negative emotions. Some of these emotions can cause stress that will interfere in our ability to function in our every day lives. <br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.cordelllaw.com" rel="nofollow">Cordell and Cordell</a>cordellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09443249131870045644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-62176475664372213312012-02-14T23:29:01.908+05:302012-02-14T23:29:01.908+05:30i think what you said in second para is unfortunat...i think what you said in second para is unfortunately more relevant cause these days for separation...THank you.Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-17329113666514095152012-02-14T23:26:42.251+05:302012-02-14T23:26:42.251+05:30i wish all the best for ur friend and believe me i...i wish all the best for ur friend and believe me it is equally painful for men too....Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-23038792719746065292012-02-14T23:25:29.366+05:302012-02-14T23:25:29.366+05:30What to say more Andy, you said it all very well.....What to say more Andy, you said it all very well..i wish there are more n more people like you then institution of marriage can flourish without any problem....<br /><br />and thanks again for that lovely award...:)Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-63977698300152912952012-02-14T23:22:41.122+05:302012-02-14T23:22:41.122+05:30ya...no one should go through that fateful phase o...ya...no one should go through that fateful phase of life...AMEEN.Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-69550836850838276632012-02-14T23:20:34.817+05:302012-02-14T23:20:34.817+05:30hhmmm..i agree dowry is an important cause when it...hhmmm..i agree dowry is an important cause when it comes to ill effects of it but making the institution of marriage good or bad solely depends upon the individuals and as long as they don't allow those 'samajhdar log" to interfere, they can't dare to do any harm....<br /><br />btw thanks for stopping by, plz do come again.Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-81765028026374296662012-02-14T23:13:31.941+05:302012-02-14T23:13:31.941+05:30but how to know someone before marriage....bcoz wh...but how to know someone before marriage....bcoz when you meet someone before marrying him/her(no matter how many times you meet), he/she can very well n successfully pretend to be the best choice for you.....isn't it..???Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-69114096304971725032012-02-14T23:10:09.108+05:302012-02-14T23:10:09.108+05:30i agree, if nothing works then one must move on bu...i agree, if nothing works then one must move on but the ways out there to improve the relation must be tried honestly before moving on....thank you.Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-38366395824095031222012-02-14T23:08:02.002+05:302012-02-14T23:08:02.002+05:30and if with little adjustments n understandings th...and if with little adjustments n understandings the sufferings of the children can be avoided then why not go for it....Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-52549874590617493802012-02-14T23:06:13.351+05:302012-02-14T23:06:13.351+05:30hhmmmm...in a way you are correct that "no ma...hhmmmm...in a way you are correct that "no marriage" is better but one must try to make the marriage better n better once he/she is into it.... Thank you.Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-579975243030737292012-02-11T18:37:32.501+05:302012-02-11T18:37:32.501+05:30Divorce is a very painful to woman, even one of my...Divorce is a very painful to woman, even one of my childhood friend who is also divorced some long long back and suffered a lot. Now some good things are happened in her life. she once again married few days back, once again it is arranged marriage.,feeling happy and wishing her a happy life ahead.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-37700285837311601362012-02-10T02:54:18.757+05:302012-02-10T02:54:18.757+05:30Hello Irfan.
Hope you're feeling better.
Marr...Hello Irfan.<br />Hope you're feeling better.<br /><br />Marriage needs a lot of compromise, love & tender care for it to grow and be fruitful to both involved. Far too often people go into a marriage with the same "I" attitude...that will never work...when one enters into a marriage, "I" becomes "We" and "two" become "one". With that being said, I do realize that some people just are not happy in their marriage even after they have been together for years. For some, even after they have tried everything to make the marriage work, including counselling, therapy & whatever else, they become bitter/resentful and the only way for them to regain some measure of happiness is to part ways. <br /><br />I'm a happily married man & just celebrated my 10th Wedding Anniversary. No matter how much strife life throws my way (I've had my fair share already), I believe in the institution of marriage & divorce is not & will never be on my mind. Open conversation, discussion, respect & most importantly love are key. My wife I share everything together. The only time we are apart is when I have to go to work. She is the other half of me, as I am the other half of her.<br /><br />Excellent article Irfan.<br />Thanks for sharing.<br /><br />When you get a chance, please come to my blog...I have a special gift for you.<br /><a href="http://mypoetcharm.blogspot.com/2012/02/award-timesharing-love-again.html" rel="nofollow">Award Time...Sharing The Love Again!</a>The Poethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00667034322952126127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-26778506260175817202012-02-04T14:07:28.120+05:302012-02-04T14:07:28.120+05:30Although i ain't married yet and to be true it...Although i ain't married yet and to be true its actually very easy to point out 'our' solution (more often than not they r d perfect ones) for something which isnt that perfect. but definitely, divorce is neither d only solution nor the first solution to be sought.<br />However, circumstances may lead to a changed opinion...coz if u not happy and satisfied with how things are going u have al right to change it..divorce is just one of those rights.<br />I hope no one has to undergo such a bad phase!<br /><br />sarahSarah malikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15900352659438484102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-46294416675285351042012-02-03T17:27:32.793+05:302012-02-03T17:27:32.793+05:30The institution-marriage is an edifice which will ...The institution-marriage is an edifice which will never stands on the foundation made up of stacks of money..... which in our local dialect called as "jahez or tilak". If anybody is making a foundation of it, the edifice will definitely get abysmal and slowly and slowly leads towards devastating results like DIVORCE, SUICIDE, ILLEGAL CASES etc. <br />Our intellectuals and so called "samajhdar log" should just not discuss the process of the problem & its end product rather should locate the root causes & focus on the prevention of the problem. For doing so they them self should be man of clean image or should regret on their wrong doings (If done) and try to sensitize their dear ones of their family & community about the rights & wrongs then only they can think of becoming a good person/ intellectual/ man without regret.<br /><br />All married people should also think about their own marriage foundation.......................Afzal Sayeedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13266930735691307388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-9811579528771501822012-02-03T14:36:54.966+05:302012-02-03T14:36:54.966+05:30Well irfanji its true n I feel instead f dragging ...Well irfanji its true n I feel instead f dragging a relation u shud let the person go free and give them opp to live their life and find partners compatible to them.<br /><br />Divorce is definetely the last option wen nothin jsut nothin works out..its sad n m against it but then instead f getin harassed mentally n physicaly u shud move on..Manisha Bhatiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09383434139941400003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-23627139941714639052012-02-02T21:19:17.260+05:302012-02-02T21:19:17.260+05:30Sometimes when everything fails, it's better t...Sometimes when everything fails, it's better to end it. But then, I feel bad for the children who have to suffer.PhilO♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/02754122680372548153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-84499025153798214432012-02-02T09:34:41.481+05:302012-02-02T09:34:41.481+05:30divorce is unfortunate for sure but I think 'a...divorce is unfortunate for sure but I think 'a no marriage is much better than a bad marriage'AShttp://www.hummingwords.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-78827968405598148162012-02-01T08:10:51.355+05:302012-02-01T08:10:51.355+05:30yaa.......:)yaa.......:)Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-79493254130754239252012-02-01T08:08:34.204+05:302012-02-01T08:08:34.204+05:30Thanks for stopping by Tom..:)Thanks for stopping by Tom..:)Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-48570111486993158032012-02-01T08:08:00.071+05:302012-02-01T08:08:00.071+05:30very important point there by you Kunal that one m...very important point there by you Kunal that one must be sure that the life after divorce will be better for him/her....but in most of the cases after couple of years of divorce people regret their decision bcoz of the things going further rough for them in life.....Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-4645365899907569612012-02-01T08:04:46.492+05:302012-02-01T08:04:46.492+05:30yes, agree that some times there is no solution ot...yes, agree that some times there is no solution other than divorce but before going into it one must try all possible ways out....Thank you.Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-67136045639829720342012-02-01T08:03:01.792+05:302012-02-01T08:03:01.792+05:30will mail you the details, thanks for stopping by....will mail you the details, thanks for stopping by..:)Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-44192788050778980632012-02-01T08:02:18.130+05:302012-02-01T08:02:18.130+05:30commitment is always important let that be any rel...commitment is always important let that be any relation....will go through that post, thanks for ur read Sir.Irfanuddinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931968343851910523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-63440464609491178212012-01-31T22:50:39.504+05:302012-01-31T22:50:39.504+05:30a very thought provoking post, which is relevant n...a very thought provoking post, which is relevant nowadaysTomzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13809990191742945893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-304620737849537468.post-85850394358168066382012-01-31T22:00:25.383+05:302012-01-31T22:00:25.383+05:30Hello Irfan jee,
I am much younger and still not ...Hello Irfan jee,<br /><br />I am much younger and still not married. So, anything I say would only be correct in theory. I think, it is possible to have disagreements over things and being angry at each other and still love the person. Its when love dies or one of the partners think that love has died, when one think of divorce. I read a mathematical calculation somewhere, that marriage is actually an inherent imbalance equation and it requires a constant inflow of external energy (be it your passion, your love etc) to sustain. Though, I know human life is too complex to be defined by a mathematical equation, but there were few interesting points in the article. That said, I believe, divorce should only be thought about, when you are sure that you will be happy out of the relationship than being in the relationship.Kunalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17801232027548934686noreply@blogger.com