Another year of togetherness....

"A successful marriage means falling in love many times, always with same person"

It seems like only couple of months back I had written this post here, but looking at the calender, I find that its one complete year now... This is how life goes, days after days, years after years, in short "life goes on"....and no need to mention that like every one else, we also had our good times along with some really  bad time during this year.....At this very moment once again I would sincerely like to thank all of you for your moral n emotional support, it really helped me a lot to come out from that moment.

As we all know that marriage is the process by which people who love each other make their relation public, official and permanent...though in our case, we started loving each other only when our parents made this relation public and official, as it was purely an arrange marriage.... I wish it would have been other way... :)

Anyways, coming to the point, marriage is joining of two people in a bond that last till death(leaving those who cut short this bond by divorce due to their own reasons), and over the course of this relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens....personalities change, bodies age and romantic love waxes n wanes and at times conflicts between the partners does arises....In fact no marriage is free of conflict because its just not possible to find another human being whose every habits and preferences aligns perfectly with us, so it depends on the couple how they handle that conflict.

Actually the fundamental challenge in any relationship is figuring out how to negotiate with their partner's irritants in a way that does not effect their relation and keep the two of them connected. Moreover my personal experience of these many years has taught me that if people want to stay in a relationship then as an individual something needs to change and it starts from our self.

Few days back I was reading somewhere that "marriage offers people a substantial happiness boost"...and according to some research reports "strong, warm, fulfilling interpersonal relationship makes people happy".....

Now one may say that a lifelong bond with a friend or sibling can also make people happy, then why to marry with an strange just for the sake of happiness when that happiness can be felt without getting married.....well, in my view apart from living all those relations, leading a married life is also necessary because having spouse apart from momentary happiness also confers many other goods on us, like -- children, intimacy, domestic n financial support and above all companionship in our old age......

Well, enough on that I think..... :)

Allow me to leave here.....
Its time for us to spend this moment together ;)

Have a nice weekend,

irfan.

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