Saturday, June 16, 2012

Another year of togetherness....




"A successful marriage means falling in love many times, always with same person"

It seems like only couple of months back I had written this post here, but looking at the calender, I find that its one complete year now... This is how life goes, days after days, years after years, in short "life goes on"....and no need to mention that like every one else, we also had our good times along with some really  bad time during this year.....At this very moment once again I would sincerely like to thank all of you for your moral n emotional support, it really helped me a lot to come out from that moment.

As we all know that marriage is the process by which people who love each other make their relation public, official and permanent...though in our case, we started loving each other only when our parents made this relation public and official, as it was purely an arrange marriage.... I wish it would have been other way... :)

Anyways, coming to the point, marriage is joining of two people in a bond that last till death(leaving those who cut short this bond by divorce due to their own reasons), and over the course of this relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens....personalities change, bodies age and romantic love waxes n wanes and at times conflicts between the partners does arises....In fact no marriage is free of conflict because its just not possible to find another human being whose every habits and preferences aligns perfectly with us, so it depends on the couple how they handle that conflict.

Actually the fundamental challenge in any relationship is figuring out how to negotiate with their partner's irritants in a way that does not effect their relation and keep the two of them connected. Moreover my personal experience of these many years has taught me that if people want to stay in a relationship then as an individual something needs to change and it starts from our self.

Few days back I was reading somewhere that "marriage offers people a substantial happiness boost"...and according to some research reports "strong, warm, fulfilling interpersonal relationship makes people happy".....

Now one may say that a lifelong bond with a friend or sibling can also make people happy, then why to marry with an strange just for the sake of happiness when that happiness can be felt without getting married.....well, in my view apart from living all those relations, leading a married life is also necessary because having spouse apart from momentary happiness also confers many other goods on us, like -- children, intimacy, domestic n financial support and above all companionship in our old age......

Well, enough on that I think..... :)
Allow me to leave here.....
Its time for us to spend this moment together ;)

Have a nice weekend,
irfan.


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26 comments:

  1. Wish you a very Happy Anniversary and many many years of togetherness.

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  2. When I looked at your profile pic the other day, I can't help but brim over with joy seeing you with your wife and kids. And for the most part, I know that you're a man of integrity, and for that I laud you for your sincerity.

    Difficulties in marriage have surrounded my family over the course of years, but I still believe that it is God and love that holds a family together.

    Do stay in love ~ and yes, always with your wife :P

    Happy anniversary to God's faithfulness.

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    1. wow...so many comliments....going to show this to my wife..:))

      yes its God n love that holds a family together.... and at the same time those tiny adjusments among the family members which we do in day-to-day life do mircles in holding a family together....

      yaa, believe me i am honestly trying to stay in love with my wife only...:))

      THank you..:)

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  3. Wish you a very happy anniversary and it is good to know your view on marriage and relationship.

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  4. Irfan bhai jaan wishing you and your better half a very very happy anniversary.. congrats .. and no wonder you are such a good human being thoughts like the one you have said make one a good person...

    And so what if it was arranged you can alway romance now also obviously with your better half....

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    1. going to follow your instructions Bikram and will be romancing with MY better half only...:)

      Thank you.

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  5. Very sweet thoughts. There is no age to love, but yes, love, like old wine, does mature with age.
    Wishing you both a happy wedding anniversary.

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    1. thanks for the visit...plz do come again :)

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  7. It true, marriage means full effort from both sides to make a successful relationship: a relationship that can last. Sometimes it is seen that a relationship lasts even when one person is always giving in, while the other party keeps on dominating in each and every thing. But such a relationship, lasts for long because of various compulsions, not out of love and respect for each other, it is really sad.
    In a good, sound marriage, one should be able to give each other the space they need, and both of them have to make small changes in their attitude, and be happy to do so.
    Wishing you and your wife a very happy togetherness for life.

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    1. Agree with you....in fact its not only with husband n wife but in each n every relation adjustments has to from both sides, then only relation can last in a healthy environment.....
      Thanks for the wishes :)

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  8. Hello Irfan Sir.
    Happy Anniversary my friend! It seems like it was not that long ago that we were all here wishing you happy anniversary (smile). How time flies! I so agree with everything you have stated here. My wife and I have been together for 13 years, married for 10-1/2. It was tough for us in the early years. Both of us had to make a lot of adjustments, but with time, comes acceptance, trust and respect. We too have had our fair share of ups and downs, but I think that's all a part of life...no one ever said life would be easy. We have faced the trials of life, but we have dealt with them together and that's what marriage is all about...having someone to depend on when things don't look so rosy; having another pair of shoulders to lean on when you yourself are weighed down with the burdens of life; being able to openly cry without feeling ashamed to show your feelings. We are one in our marriage and what affects one affects the other. I believe for a marriage to continue on into longevity, there has to be trust, compassion, forgiveness, compromise, respect and most importantly love. I tell my wife I love her even when she's mad at me. Love is more than just words, it's actions too. I feel her love even when she's not in the best of moods and I'm sure it's the same for her too. Love is the greatest expression of beauty we as humans can express. You and I are among the fortunate ones to have love in our lives.

    Wishing you and your wife many more years of togetherness and growing old together. May your house, home and heart continue to be wrapped in love. Thanks for sharing my friend.

    Thoughts Of Beauty In The Stillness Of Dawn...

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    1. thanks for that wonderful comment Sir, yes....its mutual trust, compassion and all that you mentioned are the important ingredients for a successful n happy married life...and indeed you two are lucky to be with each other, i wish your love n affection remain same through out the life...AMEEN....

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  9. So nice and beautifully described the relationship of marriage. Hope u r enjoying and celebrating the matrimony and love with your spouse.

    Wishing you many more Happy Anniversary dear Friend! My best wishes :)

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    1. Thanks for the wisehs Jeevan..

      Thank you so much.... :)

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  10. Hey Irfanji Wish you a wonderful day with your lovely wife. Wishing you more of happiness and good things in the years to come.

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    1. Thank you Ashwini..:)

      thanks for the wishes.

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  11. My Belated wishes to both of you !

    First thing required in marriage is that both should work hard to make it work, one sided efforts dont yield results.

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    1. yes, efforts are needed from both sides...:)

      Thank you.

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