Choti Si Aasha...

"Our Daughters and Sisters want to feel safe"

Are they asking for too much....????

Lets start from this

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At this moment I would like to share these lines with you which I like a lot....

Agar Bazm-e-Insaan mein Aurat naa hoti
khayaalon ki rangeen jannat naa hoti

Sitaaron ke Dilkash Fasaane naa hote
Bahaaron ki naazuk haqeeqat naa hoti

Jabeeno pe Noor-e-Masarrat naa hota
Nigaahon mein Shaan-e-marrawwat naa hoti

Faqeeron ko Irfaan-e-Hasti naa milti
Ataa Zahido ko ibaadat naa hoti

Musaafir sadaa manzilo par bhatakte
Safeeno ko saahil ki qurbat naa hoti

Har ik phool ka rang pheeka sa hota
Naseem-e-bahaaraan mein nikhat naa hoti

Khudaayi ka Insaaf Khaamosh rehta
Sunaa hai kisi ki shifa'at naa hoti

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नये साल हमको ये उम्मीद दे-दे
(NAYE SAAL HUMKO YEH UMMID DE-DE)

तू सपने दे ना दे , पर नींद दे-दे
(TU SAPNE DE NA DE  ,  PER  NEEND DE-DE)

WISH  YOU  ALL  A  HAPPY,  PEACEFUL  AND  HEALTHY  2013

PS: I will be away from blogs for ten days, till then take good care of yourself and your loved ones, see you all in 2013, Insha-Allah !!

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irfaaaann@gmail.com

pen_irfan@twitter.com

Stop this Shame....

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We all know that in ancient Indian scriptures, woman was given a glarified status. She was an embodiment of shakti, no religion ceremony was complete without her.  Savitri, Parvati, Sita, Ahilya were the role models of Indian society.....In later days, during the freedom struggle Aruna Asaf Ali, Sarojini Naidu, Kasturba Gandhi, Sucheta kirplani and other women played excellent role for the libration of their motherland from the Britishers. They fought against all odds, so that at no point of time their commitment or energy could be derated with those of their male counterparts during those times.

With the advent of the technology dominated era and commercialism our women have also changed. The shy n not so bold female in the saree have been replaced by a youthful, fashion conscious and smart girl in jeans and T-shirts. Whenever needed they are more hard working and sincere in all the walk of life and more productive than their male counterpart and no one can deny that at present women have been playing major roles in politics, economy, household, society and nation building.

Today we have woman as a speaker of Lok Sabha, a woman chair person of the ruling coalition govt and not to mention that just couple of months back we had a woman President too. Not only this, recently when Saina Nehwal and Mary Kom came back with those glittering Olympic medals in their hands then there was a status update on social networking sites saying "Performance of Sania Nehwal and Mary Kom is enough proof to have more n more girl children in India...."

But unfortunately every time we start making an opinion that the condition of woman have improved, there is Guwahati or Delhi type of unfortunate incident, where a girl is molested n stripped by a mob or gang reaped and the status of women in the society suffers a jolt. The most important thing is, the incidents like Guwahati n Delhi makes one to believe that our women are not safe even in the educated urban environment.

There was a report  by The south Indian Council for Human Rights Education and Monitoring in Feb 2011 which says "One woman is molested every 26 minutes, One woman is raped every 34 minutes and one-fourth of the 15 million girls born every year don't even get to celebrate their 15th birthday....." Now after looking at this report one can easily understand that its not only Guwahti or Delhi which has witnessed such fateful incidents but such things have been happening in this country at regular intervals, irrespective of the states n cities....But as a human what do we do....???? 

Well, the moment such things happen, each of us start condemning it through all means, including dharnas, candle march etc.... Even our own blog world starts over flowing and showing its concern for the victim n their family but after couple of days or weeks, each of us get busy doing our own business and its the victim who only continue to suffer n goes through the mental trauma through out her life.....

I remember it was the same scenario when the girl was molested on the roads of Guwahati, everybody(sitting in dining room) was ready to kill the culprits, all the news channels were busy discussing the whole story day n night....it was like now or never....but what happened after few days, as usual every thing became normal for the entire nation.... Did anyone ever tried to peep into the life of the victim, how is she coping up with her life...???

Whether she got justice or not...???

Did any of us ever tried to know whether culprits got fixed or not....??? or,

Did we the Civilised Indians  ever came again on any social platform asking to the authorities that why culprits have not been fixed yet....???

No, we didn't... In fact, we never do that, perhaps we tend to forget such things very easily and its only get reminded to us when something similar happens somewhere again.....

Unless we change this attitude nothing will change.....

Its not that we lack the laws to protect women, in fact there are laws which literally protect them right from womb and through out their life. But the fact is, even after having these laws women continue to suffer at the hands of the system n society. Perhaps our great nation is still struggling to have proper mind set to use the laws and deal with those people who commit such sinful n brutal act....

Enough is enough.... 

The time for talk is over.... 

Its high time to take some action, to stop this shame.

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irfaaaann@gmail.com

pen_irfan@twitter.com

our karmas n future life....

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Each of us know this fact that decay and death are inevitable.....We all very well know that our Karmas(deeds) would bring us befitting rewards or punishments depending upon their nature and intentions, as there is this common saying "as you sow, so shall you reap"...

But the unfortunate part is that even after knowing all this, most of us use our powers and influences for the destruction of our opponents n competitors. Actually we forget that there could be reprisals.... And that too these reprisals may not be from the victim only but from the Almighty himself. After all God is  the great paymaster.

Even history has so many evidences and we can very well see that whoever looted the masses and deprived them of their lives, properties and dignity, they never lived in peace in the latter stages of their lives.....

For example, "Alexander the Great" invaded India and conquered it with the help of his men(that include the traitors of our nation). He looted the masses and butchered thousands of innocent people....After all his ill-doing in the most prosperous nation of those times, he left India and fell sick while he was going home in Macedonia  and even the best medicines could not cure him.... His mother called the doctors treating him and asked about the reason of his son not getting any relief from the disease. The learned doctor took her to the sea beach and threw a dose of medicine in the ocean water. The water frozen within few seconds, then the doctor told the queen that "see even this strong medicine is not giving any relief to your son and he did not have any medicine better than this."...... In fact so intense was his dysentery that he could not survive for long due the severity of the disease..... What I mean to say is that even "Alexander the Great" was not spared by the Almighty for his wrong done.

In fact each and every religion support this theory that we all have to pay for our sins one way or other. But unfortunately we the human(so called) does not understand this fact and resorts to all kinds of immoral activities for making money and getting whatever we aspire to get. Since time immemorial, man has been ruling with the help of  the 'swords n guns' and has exploited his weak counterpart by overlooking the fact that diseases, loss in business, accidents, natural calamities are the natural sequels of his karmas. May be perhaps we forget that our every misdeed or good deed would be judged by the Almighty.

In short, our action shapes our life to come. So all of us must beware that we build our future life in the right way. So let our field of life be sown with the seeds of good deeds, so that we may reap a rich harvest of happiness.....!!!

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irfaaaann@gmail.com
pen_irfan@twitter.com

R.I.P. Masculinity....

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Take a look around, how many men do you see having those thick n shining moustaches and moving comfortably with their rough-tough looks....yes, you are very right, there are very few now a days who like to pose themselves with those thick n shining moustaches. 

Interestingly its not only those who are in their 20s and starting a relationship but a large chunk of men in their 40s can also be seen lining up for clean shaves, waxing and even going for laser removal of hair on their arms, legs and chest as well.

Believe it or not, men were not always this way. In fact there was a time when these men proudly used to say "Moochien hon to Nathu Laal jaisi...vernaa....".

Did you ever thought, what happened to our old fashioned, stubble, unkempt hair men, who were able to get dressed in two minutes....????

Are our guys tapping more into their feminine sides....????

Is it the organised and aggressive marketing trend, forcing men to go for all those things which were once considered GIRLY....????  or,

Is it that, women themselves wilfully feminised men to make them less masculine, so that these chocolaty looking men can be less challenging to women's ambitions....????

Though women themselves can answer that well, but in my views its not so and I personally feel that "just as men prefer women to retain their femininity, women love for men to take care of themselves but retain masculinity....." 

So, how did this pattern shifted from a rusty masculine look to a chocolaty one....????

Well, if you ask me, my idle mind is simply coming to the conclusion that "its only that men are just turning into better looking men" and their is nothing wrong into it as long they are able to retain their masculinity. 

BTW according to you, what can be the reason behind this transition of men, from rusty to chocolaty....????

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irfaaaann@gmail.com
pen_irfan@twitter.com

To You, with Love....

My dear APNiBOLi....

It seems that yesterday only I met you, but as you know, I started this journey with you exactly two years back and during these two years you did so much for me. In fact you made my life so much better that now I know a lot more about myself, hence I take this opportunity to thank you for broadening my horizons and I will be forever grateful to you for that.

I must tell you that during this period, my journey with you have been awesome which has given me an opportunity to discover a new ME via YOU. You are the first thing that I mention as my hobby now a days and it feels great to see that I have posted 90 posts so far, including this one. Though it could have been much more but there are times in our lives when we cannot do what we like most to do and this is what happening with me since last couple of months. Actually its the circumstances that force us to change our priorities during our journey of life and at the moment my circumstances are somehow not allowing me n you for holding together. 

But if you ever feel that I have forgotten you as I am not able to post frequently then you are little wrong. I would like to tell you that at-least once  in a day a thought of APNiBOLi passes my mind and my frequency of posting may have reduced but I can assure here that you will always be a part of me..... I can proudly say that APNiBOLi has been one of the best things I have done so far in my life and even the thought of it brings a spark of happiness in me.

Dear APNiBOLi, it has been such a pleasure to share with you some of the things that I love in life. Let me tell you that its not that you provided me only a platform for sharing ideas and thoughts but you also gave me an opportunity to create  a community of like minded people.... You might be having an opinion that its only me behind your success, so let me tell you that there are many people who have supported and participated in my journey with you and without whom our journey would not have been so fun. Hence I take this opportunity to thank all of them(the silent & the loud ones) for their visits and for sharing their views. 

So a BIG THANKs to ALL my blogging friends and to all those silent readers out there, for inspiring me to keep on blogging. I wish n hope that my ongoing relation with all of them will continue in future too and will get stronger day by day(insha allah). Once again I would like to extend my sincere thanks to all my blogger friends without mentioning their name because they all know who they are.....
LOVE YOU ALL GUYS :)

Love you APNiBOLi.....!!

Sincerely yours,

irfan.

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PS: Friends, I am back after more than two months of break and trying to cope up with blog's world speed by going through your posts one by one...There are so many wonderful things to go through.

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irfaaaann@gmail.com
pen_irfan@twitter.com