Friday, January 13, 2012

Sex Sells....


Looking at the title of this post, some of you might be thinking that what happened to this man who has been always writing about dry and boring subjects, is talking about SEX here....so let me make it clear that even today I am not going to write erotic stories or how to win your man or woman during the period because I personally believe that there is no bookish way to follow and win your loved one during the process but it all depends upon individuals and the mutual relation of the couples.....

Anyways, coming on to the subject..... I have been a regular reader of couple of leading political and current affairs magazines, but while going through one of the recent issue of such magazine, I thought like reading DEBONAIR  or something similar to that. There were full pages of Condoms advertisements and rest of the pages were carrying a survey report based on sexual life and behavior of today's India......

Now just to mention some of the survey results here.......
i :- 48% husbands say their ideal partner is not their wife.....
ii :- 55% men say there is more infidelity because of more women in the work place....
iii :- For 55% men their first sexual partner was other than their wife....
iv :- 24% are open to one night stand....
v :- 27% parents believe that their child is sexually active and above that 73% of them have accepted it and kept quite....

Now when I start looking into my surrounding and the people whom I know since decades, most of the couple look like an ideal match for each other, so if the survey is right then are these thousands of couple simply pretending to be ideal......well I don't think its possible to do so for decades....Do you think so....???

Now if infidelity is more because of more working women then I suggest these survey people to go to rural India and feel the pulse of the nation, I am sure    this    report will be proved wrong and it does not have to do anything with women at work place or not....

Similarly survey report claims that 24% women are ready for one night stand, well I don't know who these 24% women are because I am desperately looking for one and could not find any.... may be I am too old now......

Now the 73% of the total 23% parents are reported to be keeping quite and accepting that let their chidren be active sexually....now, do you all think that these many of Indian parents are that modern...and how many of you parents out here will accept it quietly.....if you ask me then "I CAN'T".... may be I am too orthodox or too old fashioned.....

Not only this, the learned editor of this premier magazine claims that "This survey is the most trusted indication of how Indian men and women pursue the intimate pleasure of life and it brings the larger story of Indian's private life".....

Now, i just like to ask this learned editor that "what useful purpose does it serve to conduct a sex survey in which you go to Metros and pick up just 5365 people and come up with a report claiming it to be India's picture as a whole????

Don't you think that these bogus surveys are bound to encourage our youth to give up their principles and go mad behind sexual pleasure????

How do you think that a mere 5365 respondents from metros are to stand statistically valid across the nation????

Well, i can understand that Sex sells and each one of you is determined to out do others with such issues and your sale graph might have gone up after this, butttttttt did you ever thought(even for a second) that based on such bogus reports, our youths are bound to think that there are good chances of getting involved in sexual pleasure in every city and one has to do only is take few chance.....???

Moreover while going through your report I felt that you seem to think that there is no holiness, moral character, respect for marriage n sex left now in society  and all of us are animals not humans anymore......

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86 comments:

  1. thank you for your thoughtful and passionate post. i find it ironic that the magazine refers to "intimate pleasure of life" since they are surveying and describing something which is certainly not intimacy...

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    1. you rightly pointed out.....certainly these acts has got nothing to do with intimacy....and thanks for stopping by....!!

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  2. well...i think i agree with the part where they say due to more men/women in workplace leads to cheating... i know a lot of people and that too, women, who cheat or cheated on their husbands... not all the things in the survey be true for every place but it gives us an estimate about things... i dont know how it is in india...


    nice post by you irfan bhai :) and the you are too old post made me laugh... you certainly are young by heart :)

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    1. but Israr Bhai, it does not mean that working women is the only major reason behind infidelity...if it is so then infidelity would not have been there since so long when women used to stay with in four walls only.....

      Thank you.

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  3. he he he nooooooooooooo what do u mean desperately looking for now tch tch tch NOT good Irfan Bhai :)


    as you said these reports or surveys are down on a few people .. and that 5k + is still a big number some of them dont even have that much.. hence the percentage is so much higher ...

    although i must say deciept, betrayal and one night stands are on the RAISE for sure ... and has become the modern trend tooo ..

    Bikram's

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    1. Yes Bikram, just think if these figures are going to influence me n you and we start looking for such things then what impact it will have on our youth....moreover i don't understand how these 5k+ people residing in metros can represent 1.22 billions Indians as a whole.....

      and even if all this are on RAISE then it does not mean that majority of country people are going that way, as this report suggests....

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  4. The answer to your query lies in your meaningful post! The sample size of survey of 5000 odd is not even a representative of one metro and the cultural ethos of Delhi are so different from Chennai. So even on this logic it is bogus! Any one who has studied Statistics will vouch that the sample size and not some fudged figures are what represent the population!

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    1. yes Sir, how these people can make an opinion about a multicultural country like ours after seeing a mere 5000 people.....absolutely impractical.

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  5. I'm sure the magazine people didn't consult any statistician before conducting the survey. Study design and selection of sample size are the fundamental points to make some generalizable inference. I'm sure they haven't even bothered about the social clusters that would make the results vary due to the heterogeneity of lifestyles.

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    1. agreed..... and its not about consulting the statisticians but its all about marketing fundas.......they know it very well that these things can push their sale graph very fast.....and unfortunately it does work for them.

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  6. your one night stand wala line (looking for one but not finding) made me laugh like crazy! till then i was reading it very seriously and after that too.
    very well put together post esp your logical take on each of those survey points

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    1. and plz don't take that line seriously......:D
      glad you liked it...thank you.

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  7. Oooo Irfan you bet it sells, well just the idea of it blows one away. See, I read this first? LOL

    If we want credible results, then this must pass to the statisticians' critique. I also think you've acted prudently focusing on India and not taking in the whole world into your post. It will come out differently but hooking on the same grounds.

    Ooo I think men are unfaithful to their wives because they can't get enough...

    Of course, their wives wouldn't be their ideal because "idealism" stays in the mind... and oh well, they see the reality when they live together ;)

    One night stands, well, i don't know much about that.

    I don't think parents accept that their child is sexually active.They just want to keep their peace and live longer that's why they keep quiet.

    hmmm...truly interesting Irfan.

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    1. Thank you so much for ur insightful comment Melissa.....

      and yes the sample of the block for any survey does have a major role to play for any result, but unfortunately somehow these people never focus on that.....

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  8. these surveys have sampling bias...and their motive is obvious...it only proves that sex sells....you are absolutely right....but i still believe that human beings are animals...and sexual beings....no denying that....

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    1. yaa...sex sells, be it in any form.....Thank you SUB.

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  9. I agree with you on the point that such survey will encourage youth to look for women. One reading newspaper regularly will come to believe such infidelity has chances to exist, but it could be uncommon and 0% to count. I always believe that media has and should have the high responsibility on society and what they write is believed as truth and aware people about things, but bogus will mislead... I appreciate you for the post.

    Hope this year begins wonderful for you with lot of hope, chance of many prosperity, happiness and cheers. My seasons greeting to you :)

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    1. yes, i agree that media should act with responsibility but unfortunately the don't....

      Good to see you back and thanks for the appreciations an wishes.....:))

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  10. Sex sells is true.. and that editor is into serious business.. so he will use what he can to sell that magazine of his.. these surveys are a trash.....who does these surveys or in what conditions they are done no one knows.. and as compared to the population of India the sample size must be ant size..

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    1. you are right, size of the sample does matter a lot for any survey....THank you.

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  11. Well Irfanji,

    you disappointed me..Seeing the title, I quickly came here expecting a sleazy story..but what u gave me is the results of sex survey instead :) just joking..
    I am very much worried about the drifting morality mind of the conservative Indians..

    anyway a very thoughtful post

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    1. "Sleazy story" that too at APNiBOLi...i wish i could.....:))

      THanks for stopping by again TOM....!!

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  12. Hello Irfan.
    I have to agree with SuKupedia & Linda made a good point too. The plain & simple fact is SEX SELLS! These surveys are usually way off the truth & you have to wonder who they interview to get these ridiculous results.
    I'm sure women cheat as do men, but who even knows what goes on behind closed doors. People are very good at portraying that fake facade of complete bliss when their real family life is falling apart at the seams.
    Here in America, you can't watch a program on the tv without seeing some sort of sex scene. Oh how times have changed!

    Interesting write-up.
    Thanks for sharing.

    Sorrow Has Entered My Heart

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    1. Thoughtful points by you Andy....
      and thanks for the visit.....Much appreciated.

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  13. India is a porn starved nation; defiantly sex will sell.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by Prateek.....
      Good to see you here...:))

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  14. When I saw the title the first thought that came to my mind....what happened to this man...It can't be Irfan bhai.That's the reason why I checked out what actually is this post all about.Glad that you haven't crossed the limit....and yes the survey thing is a big joke and no doubt Sex sells more than hot cakes anywhere you go. ;)

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    1. Glad to have you again here....
      See the title is doing its part...isn't it...:))

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  15. A random survey with few participants and word 'sex' in it. Bingo, a story is born for a magazine... They don't care whether it's right or wrong...Whether it has some weight in it. All they care is that eye catching word...

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  16. Yes, all these surveys do is try to sell their magazines. As you pointed out, they are not represented of the metros even, forget the country. They want to sensationalize a topic and sell their magazine, that is all.

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    1. yes...with their lucrative headings and colourful fotos they create sensation among a particular section....thank you.

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  17. thats very true. Most of these 'surveys' are as concocted as the astrology section in most newspaper and magazines. And the purpose is just to get undue attention and lure reluctant customers pick to go for that magazine/ paper !!

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    1. oh, yes....even astrology things appears to be the same way as these survey reports....thank you.

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  18. Well irfanji,

    After reading ur posts, In india sex sells coz they alyws try to keep such an imp and sensitive topic under wraps...Whats wrong to talk abt sex?
    Its good to put in the survey n long ads f condom coz its high time india n indian needs awareness, Don u think so?

    Now the youth of india who s sexualy active..My question whats wrong in that? That is v natural and personal choice. U shud understand that the educated now doesnt get married at the age of 14-18 like yesteryears and now average age to get married is getting late so definetely they will invlove in havng sex, and affairs. Its v natural and there shud b more advertisemet rather mandatory education for sex in schools.

    Indians are double standard, they wanna do everthin under wraps n y targegt females for one night stands. If boys can do y not gals?
    Secondly, no body forces anyone to read such magazines, lets stop reading n they will stop posting. V simple!!

    Mani

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    1. well...if it sells only bcoz we Indians try to keep it under wraps then why Sex is much more salable in western part of world bcoz they always keep it quite open....

      does that mean anyone who is not getting married on proper age(which is absolutely not 14 or 18) should go for all such activities and does getting late married justifies pre-marital sex..????? if it is so, then i am perhaps too much orthodox or lagging too much behind the world....:(

      yes, i agree with you that no one forces to read such things but there is certain age group who always has that curiosity to know more n more about sex and their curiosity forces them to read such things, which in turn effects their thoughts and acts as well.....

      appreciate ur honest views on the post here.....thank you.

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  19. Very interesting read Irfan. As for an ideal marriage I think more and more marriages nowadays appears to be ideal but far from it. More and more extra marital affairs are going on. You will be surprised. As for allowing children to have sex and keeping quiet about it, I think we are talking more about the rich and famous and not so much in a middle class family.

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    1. yes...this is the point actually that these survey people cover mostly the rich people who have their own life style n living standards and then project the report as India's life style as a whole....

      Thanks for stopping by....!!

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  20. Interesting topic and well written :) Sex has become so casual now. Times are changing :)

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  21. it's definitely a post to ponder over.

    i have read all the comments so far. i do agree to a lot. but your last point is notable. youth reading such magazines are encouraged to go for unhealthy sex that effects their mind and thus their society. even for married couples, they are encouraged more for extra marital affairs instead of understanding their spouse and getting more involved with each other as a happy couple.

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    1. and unfortunately people involved in pre-marital or extra marital affairs always try to justify their acts with their own reasons.....

      thank you Sancheeta ji.

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  22. Topics on sex does sell, for they had hooked you too. I don't think people rely on such news items, which we all know is done only to up their business. Sane people have better things to do then sit and ponder on all these bogus theories.

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  23. Whether the survey is true or not, I have heard some horror stories of extra marital affairs among Indians at home and abroad.

    Watching Indian movies and reading some "family" magazines, I sometimes wonder what "culture" they talk about.

    Ultimately it means there is no fear of God among people, irrespective of race or gender. :(

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    1. hhmmmm...over all not a very good looking scenario...:(

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  24. See it sells..you got so many comments...It is still the best selling story...

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    1. Good to see you Amrit...:)
      how r you doing....???

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  25. The number of comments justify your title...Times have changed.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by Alka ji....yes, time has certainly changed.....

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  26. Such surveys are the reason that I had stopped reading India Today some 4-5 years ago and switched to another magazine. But now it seems a ritual for every magazine to carry such surveys on yearly basis.

    I still feel there is so much of information in the world and by tapping this information the magazines can create a rising sales graph. But then who am I before such learned editors of celebrated magazines.

    Anyways, you had a good take on these surveys and I feel that however change comes in India, Indian parents will remain the same unless they are from very high social strata where parents and children meet once in month or a year.

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    1. yes, looking at this statistics it does seems that they have gone for higher society people only but the irony is they are claiming it as India's picture as a whole.....

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  27. your stance is logical, valid and nicely put forward.

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  28. Absolutely! Well all they need is something sensational, something which many people could conveniently take up and re-assure "there are many like me", and selling huge chunks of printed paper in the process.
    Nicely written irfanji :)

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  29. That's not apt statement that should go with such a survey! I would expect a respectable editor to watch what he publishes. I have read surveys in Cosmo and they are quite good with chosing how to support their surveys.

    As far as pretentions are concerned, I wouldn't be surprised if people are actually living a fake life and living for the sake of it. When I conducted a survey on my blog for abusive relationships, a good % of people knew someone who got abused or were abused. That doesn't mean it exists everywhere but it did shock me.....

    Stats are many a times made up too...I feel...

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    1. yes, they are made as per there need.....Thank you.

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  30. You so rightly pointed out the sad part of this survey which is blame it all on working women.These surveys don't help anybody but only causes trouble for working women.

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    1. Agree, unfortunately working women have been the ultimate target of our society....

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  31. Might be ... sex sells :P
    And, I can send you my office address for the book review .. will that be fine ?
    Weakest LInk

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    1. Thank you and hope to see you more often here now.... :)

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  33. India Today often conducts such sex surveys! Surveys on best schools...best Engineering colleges and most of the results make your eyes pop out of their sockets!

    Of course they are far from reliable and should be shrugged off as just a gimmick to sell the magazine.

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    1. but it seems there are more who somehow believes in these figures given, otherwise how their gimmick works n help to shoot up the sale graph.....

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  34. I agree with the part that this survey means nothing...You can't generalize it for whole nation by surveying few thousand individuals. But, I also know, any person in his or her right mind would find this survey quite meaningless and will do what they believe in...be it one night stand, infidelity or long term partners.

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    1. Or may be if the survey is done considering every section of society in mind, age groups etc...this may give an idea of how we are changing as society...but it can't be taken as a scientific law which can explain every sexual preference of an individual.

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    2. totally agree here with you.....Thank you.

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  35. Reminds me of what Neha Dhupia once said "only sex and SRK sell"

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    1. and tomorrow SRK may be replaced by someone else but SEX will always remain on top.....
      BTW welcome here...thank you

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  36. Irfan ji, you do know how to pick a good topic to blog about. :) There is a whole LOT that I would like to say on this post, but I don't want to hijack your blog so I'll mention only 3 points and that too in brief.
    1. As you started with. Sex Sells, all the fancy, flowery non-sense that you have quoted from article is pure bullshit, it's just an attempt to sell more magazines by publishing about sex.

    2. Their statistics, like all statistics are meaningless. You can prove anything if you just ask the right questions from the right people.

    3. You have raised a question of whether you are too orthodox, then taking into account the current climate, I would say a definite yes.

    Have a nice day! :)

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    1. and i am really glad to be called ORTHODOX......:))

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  37. The reason why such an article is published is not because of logic or to prove anything. Even the reporter knows that it is not the pulse of the nation or any reader for that matter will also know that. The reason simply is "Sex Sells". Your write anything about it, it sells. People get a kick out of reading it, however untrue it maybe and however aware they maybe that it is untrue. Sex Sells. I am am not sure, but if you analyze, probably you will get more hits for this blog post than any other too :)

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    1. Welcome here Asif.....hope to see you again, and thanks for giving ur views here....:)

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  38. I dont believe in these surveys.

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  39. 48% husbands say their ideal husband is not their wife..? thats something to think about? Was it a pun by any way?

    Regards
    Priya
    http://aalayamkanden.blogspot.com

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    1. its actually "48% husbands say their ideal partner is not their wife"......(corrected)....:))

      and welcome here at my space.....plz do come again.

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  40. Though I do not believe this survey per se... i do believe that most couples are like the plastic flowers... they never wither because they are not natural.....
    as for infidelity, it's more common that we believe it to be... :)

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