Purpose of human life....

Our life is a journey and during this entire journey one can't stop even for a while. This entire journey is not just a matter of  failure or success..... In fact it begins  with the birth and continues till one die... Does it mean that the aim of the life is to simply move on till our death.....No, it can't be....!!!

Then what is the meaning of this entire journey...???

Actually when I think about it, I find that starting from childhood...Adolescence...youth and then getting old...all is set...and at any point of time if someone try to remain in any of these stages then its just not possible...absolutely not possible.....

Now my idle mind is thinking that if every thing and every stage of our life is set by
nature then how to make our life meaningful and valuable...??? Because simply living the whole span of life is in no way an achievement, In fact its a natural process and every living thing on this earth lives its span of life....So what we as a human should do to make this journey valuable...???

At times, for fulfilling our dreams and getting our ambitions achieved, we just keep on running behind the goal and while running blindly into this race, we just don't notice that when n how our VALUES...MORALS and IDEALS have started losing its breath.....

So, can there be an end of our dreams....our ambitions...???

Well, I personally feel that its always necessary to have some control over our ambitions....Now one may argue that to succeed one should have ambitions and i do agree that one must be ambitious butttttttt my point is he/she should never be overambitious.

Actually one must learn the technique to resist him/herself from entering into the blind race of  life kn this materialistic age because our life is precious and its not at all to simply run behind goals blindly.... In fact during this entire journey there has to be some space for satisfaction, so that our VALUES....MORAL and IDEALS remain intact and at no stage of life they start feeling breathlessness......


So in my view the purpose of life(apart from different beliefs or religious explanations)  is to complete this journey with integrity without damaging our Values, Morality and Ideals.

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wish, i had a remote....

Forgive me friends... I know, I have been such a bad blogger during last couple of weeks and it seems like I have totally abandoned my blog space as I am not even able to respond on your valuable comments here....No excuses, but its all only because of some personal n social responsibilities coming in between me n blogging... 

And while trying  to perform all those responsibilities properly and to the best of my ability n capacity, just wish if I had a remote control like thing for my own life, so that i would rewind my life to the time when I was about 8 or 10 years old....when Mom used to provide all those lovely things which i liked most to have and Dad was paying my School fees...... In short life was just perfect for me.

But now, I am grown up n have to perform so many roles, all my dear ones expect me to behave like a responsible guy. Whenever there is an issue in the family, I often called on to give my opinion... I know, its all their love n affection for me, but going through all these sometimes i just want to curl up between my Mom n Dad and fall asleep without any worries as both of them would be there to take care of every thing around.

hhmmm... I know it is all just too much of feeling......and all will be well.... I will be fine too in next couple of days.......

In the mean time, I am just trying to go through all your new Blog posts, though sometimes I could only manage to read them and somehow not able to leave my comment there.... But its really an awesome experience to know so many people through their written work. In fact, I am in love to your writing styles and your approach towards different shades n colours of life. Believe me in about seven months of blogging I feel so glad to have so many nice friends here, as you all know yourselves so mentioning name is not required and you all are blessings in different ways.

Hope you all are having a wonderful weekend with your dear ones at your respective places.

Love n Regards.....

irfan.

Nahin fursat yaqeen maano hamien kuch aur karney ki...

Uljhanein Zindagi ki hamien kuch yun masroof rakhti hain...

Forget n Forgive....

All of us have been hurt, betrayed or humiliated...and more often this is done by some one very close to us....May be a parent, a sibling, a friend or a spouse...and when that happens, it gives bitter resentment....it forms something like gangrene with in us, which in turn becomes a grudge in our heart against those people.

And from here we start thinking to extract our pound of flesh or simply we want to take revenge....and perhaps this unquenchable desire for revenge is quite natural for every human being.

But why do we think of revenge, when someone hurts us knowingly or otherwise???

Well, one of the most important reason is that we no longer want to live with that grudge, instead we want to feel better....and once some how we take revenge, we start feeling relieved we start consoling our self that now its ok and we have extracted our pound of flesh.

But here is the twist, couple of days back, i read an article about taking revenge and forgiveness, it says "the best way to feel better after being hurt is not through revenge but forgiveness"....The author says "forgive your enemy because it offers tremendous psychological and physical benefits".... it further says, "When you forgive, you no longer go through your life emotionally handcuffed to the person who hurt you".

But my question is, "if forgiveness really has so much benefit for us, then why many of us insist on revenge and resentment?"

One reason may be that because we equate forgiveness with weakness or capitulation....we believe that forgiving means saying that we were wrong and someone else who somehow did wrong to me was right.

But according to the author of the article, "forgiveness is not about letting the other person off the hook, rather its about pulling the knife out of your own gut."

What i like most about the article is, it says "while our whole life is coloured with ideas of revenge and bitterness, the other person blissfully remains unaware of our misery and doesn't feel anything bad."

And finally i have come to a conclusion that  "its always good for our body and the soul to forgive them who hurt us"....but again, its not that easy always....

what do you think ????.....