All of us have been hurt, betrayed or humiliated...and more often this is done by some one very close to us....May be a parent, a sibling, a friend or a spouse...and when that happens, it gives bitter resentment....it forms something like gangrene with in us, which in turn becomes a grudge in our heart against those people.
And from here we start thinking to extract our pound of flesh or simply we want to take revenge....and perhaps this unquenchable desire for revenge is quite natural for every human being.
But why do we think of revenge, when someone hurts us knowingly or otherwise???
Well, one of the most important reason is that we no longer want to live with that grudge, instead we want to feel better....and once some how we take revenge, we start feeling relieved we start consoling our self that now its ok and we have extracted our pound of flesh.
But here is the twist, couple of days back, i read an article about taking revenge and forgiveness, it says "the best way to feel better after being hurt is not through revenge but forgiveness"....The author says "forgive your enemy because it offers tremendous psychological and physical benefits".... it further says, "When you forgive, you no longer go through your life emotionally handcuffed to the person who hurt you".
But my question is, "if forgiveness really has so much benefit for us, then why many of us insist on revenge and resentment?"
One reason may be that because we equate forgiveness with weakness or capitulation....we believe that forgiving means saying that we were wrong and someone else who somehow did wrong to me was right.
But according to the author of the article, "forgiveness is not about letting the other person off the hook, rather its about pulling the knife out of your own gut."
What i like most about the article is, it says "while our whole life is coloured with ideas of revenge and bitterness, the other person blissfully remains unaware of our misery and doesn't feel anything bad."
And finally i have come to a conclusion that "its always good for our body and the soul to forgive them who hurt us"....but again, its not that easy always....
what do you think ????.....