Purpose of human life....

Our life is a journey and during this entire journey one can't stop even for a while. This entire journey is not just a matter of  failure or success..... In fact it begins  with the birth and continues till one die... Does it mean that the aim of the life is to simply move on till our death.....No, it can't be....!!!

Then what is the meaning of this entire journey...???

Actually when I think about it, I find that starting from childhood...Adolescence...youth and then getting old...all is set...and at any point of time if someone try to remain in any of these stages then its just not possible...absolutely not possible.....

Now my idle mind is thinking that if every thing and every stage of our life is set by
nature then how to make our life meaningful and valuable...??? Because simply living the whole span of life is in no way an achievement, In fact its a natural process and every living thing on this earth lives its span of life....So what we as a human should do to make this journey valuable...???

At times, for fulfilling our dreams and getting our ambitions achieved, we just keep on running behind the goal and while running blindly into this race, we just don't notice that when n how our VALUES...MORALS and IDEALS have started losing its breath.....

So, can there be an end of our dreams....our ambitions...???

Well, I personally feel that its always necessary to have some control over our ambitions....Now one may argue that to succeed one should have ambitions and i do agree that one must be ambitious butttttttt my point is he/she should never be overambitious.

Actually one must learn the technique to resist him/herself from entering into the blind race of  life kn this materialistic age because our life is precious and its not at all to simply run behind goals blindly.... In fact during this entire journey there has to be some space for satisfaction, so that our VALUES....MORAL and IDEALS remain intact and at no stage of life they start feeling breathlessness......


So in my view the purpose of life(apart from different beliefs or religious explanations)  is to complete this journey with integrity without damaging our Values, Morality and Ideals.

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Old vs Youth....

While going through the newspaper I found it surprising and difficult to believe, that someone like Mr. Digvijay Singh is talking about active participation of youth in Indian politics by replacing older lot of politicians. After further going into the news it was clear that his statement came in a function where he was trying to establish his own son into politics. So in a way he was pleading in favour of his son and not for the entire youth of the country. However this is a separate debate because this post is not about dynastic politics rather its about the "Youth vs Old in Indian politics". So for the moment his statement regarding active participation of youth into governance needs to be taken as face value.

If you look at the current Lok Sabha its average age is 53yrs and this is a matter of concern because such leadership can hardly be expected to address the aspirations of a country which has got the largest youth population in the world.

Let me make it clear here that neither I am against these oldies nor I am questioning their administrative qualities and abilities, undoubtedly most of them are well experienced and highly qualified. In fact we should not forget that these people have the biggest thing to provide to the youngsters and that is their experience but what they lack is the desire to change attitude, where as our youth's biggest strength is their desire to change attitude.

Now if there are only youth in politics then things are going to suffer from lack of experience and hence repeating same mistakes that had been made earlier..... On the other hand if there are only old people then we may have to face a "No Action" like situation where lot of ideas may dwell upon problems rather than taking action with full of energy and determination.

Hence instead of arguing for youth or old, it has to be both...... The plus point in proper combination of both into governance can have two kinds of people working together.....i.e

1 ) YOUTH : Full of energy and enthusiasm to take any action with full determination.

2 )  OLD     : Having heaps of experience from past events.

Therefore for the upliftment of the nation, the old age people as well as youth should work together. They should co-operate and understand one another.

In fact its not only the Lok Sabha but we should have a right mix of young people in every department of the government organisations, because the old people can provide inputs and give feedback on how exactly the system works and the young can implement the same and take risks as they have age on their side.

Moreover by having proper blend of both, at least a signal would be sent across the youth of this country to come forward and take steps in the right direction to lead the country.

After the break.....

Hello Friends,

It is more than three months that I am posting something here at my blog. In fact yesterday when I logged into my blog, I found my lonely blog screaming for some attention.

Actually it was not that i was very busy doing some important assignments or I didn't wanted to write anything....To be honest after each exhausting day when I was lying down in bed, I used to think about writing something....Something about ongoing events around me, but couldn't do so, and the lone reason for this long break from blogging was that I didn't feel like writing..... 

I felt out of groove.....

Out of touch with reality.....

Just to let you all know that the only thing I did during this break is "moved into a new house".... And you all may agree that "moving can be and in most cases is a big step for most of us"..... It is a change in the environment around us..... Almost everyone love to move into a new house. Its exciting to meet new friends and neighbors, add fresh paints and create some do it yourself decorations......

Butttttttt moving is also one of the hardest thing to do....You get a strange feeling when you are about to leave a place because you will not only miss the people around you but you will also miss the person you are now at this place.....because you will never be this way ever again.....

Heyyyy....Are you still there with me...??? I know this post has become all about me and probably little boring as well. But at times we can choose to be little self indulgent....isn't it..???  

Moreover I didn't know how to start after this long break......

To be honest, I am scared to look at my blog, fearing all the fellow bloggers to have given up on me...And there is nothing more scary than a blogger without supportive and kind fellow bloggers, who actually give their valuable time to read and comment.... 

I just wish n pray that you all are still there with me and reading "Apniboli" same way as you were doing before this unusual break.......

Will be back soon...

Take Care....
irfan.

Do you really need a particular day...???

Now friends before you go ahead and get judgmental, let me tell you that I am neither a "religious fundamentalist" nor a "rabid nationalist", who is opposed to each n every "western import" as principle. Rather on the contrary, I am  a normal person who happen to be walking hand in hand with changing times and never appreciate those FATWAS preaching about how the women should be kept confined within the fore walls, but yet I don't like the concept of Valentine's Day... I am not saying that I hate it but somehow I detest it and feel that there is no need to mark any particular day in 365 days to show our love n affection for someone we really love....

Now before you mark me as someone who is quite old or traditional in his thoughts about social values and morality of life allow me to explain why I detest the concept of Valentine's day.....

First of all I am not saying that you should not take time to show your love n affection for your spouse but do you really need a specific day to do so...??? Well, I think in no way you need any particular day to make the person feel special whom you love.... Shouldn't that just be a part of relation anyway...??? Because I personally believe that two human in relation, already love each other, otherwise there wouldn't be any relation.

It makes me sick when I see people running around proclaimimg their love and pleading their eternal allegiance to one another and I seriously feel that if someone truly care about you then you should hear it more often than once a year with heart shaped cardboard box....

Moreover I think that Valentine's day is created simply for the merchandising industry as a mechanism for separating us from our hard earned money...... The greeting card industry rakes in billions as crazy lovers all over the world queue up to buy those cheesy n pricey cards and moreover a card alone is not adequate enough to satisfy your loved one because you are expected to fork over for bigger and even more expensive n glittering gifts to prove your love for the recipient....

Now the interesting side of the Valentine's day story is that in my view it is one of the most sexist things because its always men(in most of the cases) who have to find some way for making this day a memorable one.... Its the men who have to come up with the grand gesture or the pricey glittering present  and all the women need to do is show up and look appreciative as all the attention is on them....Why it is so, when they spend entire year claiming about equality....??? :)

Sorry for the rant friends, but for me February 14th is just another day, doing all the things that I normally do.... reading the morning news paper over a hurried cup of tea, attending all routine work at the workplace and try getting home in time to spend some blissful moments with family and have dinner with them at home itself. Because I strongly believe that it should not be just one day in the whole year  when we show our love for our spouse rather it is something one should be doing all the year around, that too not with red roses, greeting cards, chocolates or expensive meals butttttttttttttt with kindness, understanding, patience and affection........

Moreover a heartfelt hug is always better than those glittering pricey gifts........isn't it....???

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"Divorce..... is this the only solution left"

" Even in worst condition, taking a decision to save the institution of marriage is the most noble, brave and wisest thing to do "

When two persons join together in marriage, separation and divorce is never something they think about.... Love for each other comes naturally and they both care for each other...... In fact both of them start enjoying each other's company and with each n every actions and gestures they always try to say each other....."I love you" and "I always think of you".....

And that is how they live their life together with a plan of how to raise the family and grow their children while fulfilling all those social responsibilities....

But unfortunately, its not the same for every couple out there and you can find many couples whose marriage end up heading down the wrong path not too long after the honeymoon is over. Instead of learning how to sacrifice one's need for the sake of matrimonial bliss, they realize that marriage requires giving up some of the things they treasure and over a period of time there is some resentment built up between them.....As the days passes the communication between the two starts slowing down and soon they start realizing that they are not made for each other. 

As a result arguments start and all kind of horrible and dirty words start coming out of their mouth and slowly(without even knowing) they start heading towards a nasty divorce.....Finally a day comes when both of them or any one of them starts talking about seeking divorce :(

I do realize that there can be many reasons why they want to divorce their spouse and only the people in those marriages know what exactly the problem is or what exactly wrong happened in their specific circumstances, but I often think that "how could two people who were in love few days back, end up resenting and in some cases hating each other......."

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( PS: This post is the result of some unfortunate happenings with a couple known to me and both of them are very dear to me...i just wish n pray that things may get better in their future life )

Smily Saturday......1 :)

So  what, if there is no kingdom.... ;)

Have a great weekend friends :)

Sex Sells....

Looking at the title of this post, some of you might be thinking that what happened to this man who has been always writing about dry and boring subjects, is talking about SEX here....so let me make it clear that even today I am not going to write erotic stories or how to win your man or woman during the period because I personally believe that there is no bookish way to follow and win your loved one during the process but it all depends upon individuals and the mutual relation of the couples.....

Anyways, coming on to the subject..... I have been a regular reader of couple of leading political and current affairs magazines, but while going through one of the recent issue of such magazine, I thought like reading DEBONAIR  or something similar to that. There were full pages of Condoms advertisements and rest of the pages were carrying a survey report based on sexual life and behavior of today's India......

Now just to mention some of the survey results here.......

i :- 48% husbands say their ideal partner is not their wife.....

ii :- 55% men say there is more infidelity because of more women in the work place....

iii :- For 55% men their first sexual partner was other than their wife....

iv :- 24% are open to one night stand....

v :- 27% parents believe that their child is sexually active and above that 73% of them have accepted it and kept quite....

Now when I start looking into my surrounding and the people whom I know since decades, most of the couple look like an ideal match for each other, so if the survey is right then are these thousands of couple simply pretending to be ideal......well I don't think its possible to do so for decades....Do you think so....???

Now if infidelity is more because of more working women then I suggest these survey people to go to rural India and feel the pulse of the nation, I am sure    this    report will be proved wrong and it does not have to do anything with women at work place or not....

Similarly survey report claims that 24% women are ready for one night stand, well I don't know who these 24% women are because I am desperately looking for one and could not find any.... may be I am too old now......

Now the 73% of the total 23% parents are reported to be keeping quite and accepting that let their chidren be active sexually....now, do you all think that these many of Indian parents are that modern...and how many of you parents out here will accept it quietly.....if you ask me then "I CAN'T".... may be I am too orthodox or too old fashioned.....

Not only this, the learned editor of this premier magazine claims that "This survey is the most trusted indication of how Indian men and women pursue the intimate pleasure of life and it brings the larger story of Indian's private life".....

Now, i just like to ask this learned editor that "what useful purpose does it serve to conduct a sex survey in which you go to Metros and pick up just 5365 people and come up with a report claiming it to be India's picture as a whole????

Don't you think that these bogus surveys are bound to encourage our youth to give up their principles and go mad behind sexual pleasure????

How do you think that a mere 5365 respondents from metros are to stand statistically valid across the nation????

Well, i can understand that Sex sells and each one of you is determined to out do others with such issues and your sale graph might have gone up after this, butttttttt did you ever thought(even for a second) that based on such bogus reports, our youths are bound to think that there are good chances of getting involved in sexual pleasure in every city and one has to do only is take few chance.....???

Moreover while going through your report I felt that you seem to think that there is no holiness, moral character, respect for marriage n sex left now in society  and all of us are animals not humans anymore......

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