asl plz......

Friends,

Yesterday I saw a short movie  on YouTube. The name of the movie is "asl plz" , and the story of that short movie is somewhat like this.....

There are two characters into it, a boy and a teen age girl....Somehow they meet over internet and start chatting with each other, using their funky chat names...over the period of time their formal chat changes into romantic one.

After knowing that both of them are from the same city the boy started insisting to meet her and finally that girl also gives her consent for the meet. Hence they mutually decided for a meeting and the venue is a cabin of some cyber cafe.

Now a scene appears there on the screen where the girl is sitting inside the cabin waiting impatiently for the boy to come....After few moments the boy also appears into the cyber cafe, with a red rose in his hand and knocks the cabin door.....Slowly the door opens and the moment they see each other "they are simply shocked"......

"Yeah, shocked....because they happened to be own brother n sister"

Further movie goes into the flash back showing them living in the same house and sitting into their respective rooms they used to flirt with each other through internet....

Watching this climax scene even I was shocked too. It was like facing the truth rather bitter truth of our society and my idle mind was thinking that "where are we heading towards....?"

In fact, over the period of time, a big chunk of our youth have learnt to present themselves like what they are not actually and somehow they like to be identified with their funky chat names glittering on their computer screen.....

Don't you think that they as an individual are changing so fast in this ever changing technology supported environment that they are even on the verge of losing their own identity, which is really unfortunate.....!!!

*************

PS : Try to watch this 15 mnts movie "here"   before giving your views.

*******************

irfaaaann@gmail.com

TIME - most precious commodity....

While cleaning and re-arranging bookshelf today, I got one of the diary written by my father. Apart from writing short stories and poem in urdu he was very fond of writing his daily-diary in the form of beautiful rhyming notes and while reading those short but precise notes I feel like talking to him..... 

Anyways coming on to the subject......


While reading those pages my idle mind was thinking that why do someone writes daily-diary or why do we write our personal blogs...??? And personally I feel that apart from many other factors one of them is, "when we write something, we just want to keep those moments on pause into these pages, so that if someone go through these after decades, he/she may feel like living in that time and feel those moments."

Though we all know that no one can stop the time even then by writing diary, by drawing sketches on canvases or by clicking photos we often try to catch-hold that particular moment n time.....As a matter of fact its not the 'time' that we are holding into these pages or canvas, rather it is the impression of that particular time which we keep there.


In fact, time has got so much important role to play in our life that we often start measuring distances in 'time' and not in meters or kilometers.... 
Look at it.....

"दिल्ली से लखनऊ की दूरी आठ घंटे की है"

( Delhi se Lucknow ki doori Aath ghante ki hai ) 

Here we are not talking about the distance in terms of Kilometers but in terms of time....WHY...??? 
It is just because whatever may be the distance, its time that counts more for us. And through out the journey we keep on looking at time, so here time is more important  than anything else.
Similarly you can easily find people saying..... 

"हवाई सफ़र ने दो शहरों की दूरी कम कर दी है"

(Hawaai safar ne do shahron ki doori kam kar di hai)

Now, we all know that distance between two places can't be reduced and in fact  when we travel by air, it is the time taken in the journey that gets reduced....... and to reduce that journey time we spend more money, again time is more important here than money.
In our day-to-day life also, we often find people saying....

"क्या करें वक़्त ही नहीं मिलता"

(kya karen waqt hi nahi milta)  

On the other hand, there are others too who manage their time so well that they have enough of it. As a matter of fact we all have 24 hours in a day but the thing is "how we manage these 24 hours...." And if you observe then may find that our mind also keeps us reminding to maintain the 'time' and complete our assignments before  its deadline.... In fact it seems like there is a virtual clock in our mind which keeps on moving and hence we wake up in the morning and get ready for our work or college in time....... 

Now the question is "What is time...???"....... Is it a materialistic thing, an energy, any physical status or nothing at all and only a myth.... Or simply it is the ticking of that clock hanging on the wall.

Well, whatever it may be "a myth" or "a reality".... we cannot deny that it has become the most  precious commodity into our life and if we closely look at the clock on that wall, we can perfectly feel it ticking away, marching on in the same direction with horrifying regularity...... and its this horrifying regularity of time which always keeps us on our toes to synchronize with its speed as much as possible.....

Now I must wind up here because I know you have got so many other wonderful blogs to read n comment, hence i won't take much of your valuable time......

Finally, here I leave you with these words written by Sahir Ludhianvi .....

वक़्त से दिन और रात, वक़्त से कल और आज
(Waqt se din aur raat,     Waqt se kal aur aaj )

वक़्त की हर शै गुलाम, वक़्त का हर शै पे राज 

( Waqt ki har shai ghulaam, Waqt ka har Shai per raaj )
आदमी को चाहिए वक़्त से डर कर रहे

 ( Aadmi ko chaahiye,      Waqt se Dar kar rahe )

कौन जाने किस घड़ी वक़्त का बदले मिजाज

( Kaun jaane Kis Ghadi, Waqt Ka badle Mijaaz )

**********************

irfaaaann@gmail.com

Save humanity....

******************

This post has been featured on

 Blog Adda's Spicy Saturday Picks

*********

Man was born on the earth with many advantages. He has the most versatile and resilient body among all the living organisms. Undoubtedly his sensory organs are one of the best among all the living creatures, and top of all man has the most advanced brain among all the living things on this earth. Definitely this particular creation of almighty is a wonder of sorts. Even God himself must be very proud of creating man.....WHAT A CREATION....!!!

But problem starts when we as a human start thinking that we are immortal and feel proud of our money and other materialistic assets. we just don't indulge in the human process of self-respect, rather we take pride by involving our self in the wily procedures that make us feel proud, arrogant and haughty. We start under estimating our brothers, sisters, colleagues, neighbors and in fact every second person around us.

We always hear and read that all men are born equal but hardly see in our daily lives.....On the other hand we can easily see that poor are exploited by rich and the weak are given a very shabby treatment by the powerful lot.

In fact the clash of egos has been going on since man was born on earth and started living in groups and history shows that the battle for supremacy were always fought between the groups. It must be noted that group battles are very common among all the animal species, does that mean we too are animals.


At times we may see that even animals have hearts and souls for their own species........ Where as our history of fights in the name of cast,  color, region, religion etc is enough to prove that somehow we human lack into it..... SHAME ON US.


The world is changing at a very fast pace. Commercialisation and free market mechanism have created enormous wealth. And where wealth accumulates human certainly decay. The morality of the individuals in a materialistic society has been corrupted beyond compare.We are ourselves to be blamed for this catastrophe and only a serious introspection by us could save us.

We must not forget the ultimate truth that each and every one has to die one day or other, and when "six feet of land or a funeral pyre make all of us equal" then .........

Why cannot we cut down our egos and become empathetic towards all those who interact with us...???

Why cannot we help our poor brothers and sisters so that they also  live their life with dignity and comfort....???

If each one of us either be buried or cremated then why so much of hue n cry over the mortal issues and objects of the world....???

"Let us work honestly to save humanity from humans"

**********************

irfaaaann@gmail.com

I have been Tagged.....

Tags and awards are something which I always find an interesting way of interaction with fellow bloggers....At times I have been tagged and honored with awards by blogger friends.....

and few days back rather couple of months back my blogger friend Punam of Dreamz Forever tagged me with this interesting tag, so here I am with this tag with my sincere apologies for delay in taking this tag........


The Rules....
1- Link back the blogger who tagged you.
2- You must post the rules.

3- Answer the questions given by the person tagged you.
4- Tag eleven new bloggers.
5- Set eleven new questions for the bloggers tagged by you.
6- Inform them about the tag.


Here are the questions given by Punam....

1- What is your worst fear ?
Being physically dependent on others when I am old.
2- Do you really think, men are from Mars and women from Venus?Yes?No?Why?
Yes I agree because men and women think differently in most of the cases. Moreover I am married for 13 years, so I do have some personal experiences. :)
3- What is the most precious (not necessarily expensive) gift you have received till date and from whom?
A HERO cycle from my Dad during my high school.
4- Your lowest moment?
When my father took his last breath and I was not there with him.
5- Your favourite dish?

Chicken Biryani, specially prepared at home.
6- Your most precious dream? Have you achieved it or are you working towards it or is it unachievable?
Getting through the Civil Services exams, but could not do and now its unachievable. :(
7. One person in your life who made  a very big difference? How?
My daughter, I feel that after her birth I am more disciplined in life.
8- What qualities did you wish for (or what qualities did you see) in your life partner?
ADJUSTABLE, because by little adjustments with our spouse we can make life easier.
9- Your naughtiest moment and who was the target?
Nothing so far....may be i am not that naughty ;)
10- Your feelings at the moment you realized that you found true love(if you haven't found then your feelings when you actually do find it) ?
Well, I haven't found yet and at this stage of life can't even hope to find one.
11- What do you think about Dreamz Flower?
A place where one can have different shades of life.

And now the bloggers tagged by me....

1-   Melissa
2-   Renu
3-   Ash
4-   Suzy
5-   Ashwini
6-   Jeevan
7-   Mithlaish
8-   Tomz
9-   aarkay
10- Mishi
11- Kunal

And friends your eleven questions are......

1- Why are you, you?
2-  Do you enjoy your job? 
3- What is your favorite time of the day?
4- Have you ever come close to death?
5- What is your idea of living a good life?
6- What are you wearing right now?
7- What's the strangest habit you have?
8- Have you ever eaten a crayon?
9- When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
10- Did you dream last night? Can you share that dream here with your readers ?
11-Who is the second to last person called you today? (now don’t check  your mobile history)


So, now all of you mentioned above plz take this tag and post accordingly at your space as per the laid rules......
Go for it  plzzzzzzzz.... :)

******************

PS: Couple of more tags and award posts are pending with me, i will take those soon friends...sorry for the delay........

************************************

irfaaaann@gmail.com

Miss you dad......

Bete.....whom do you love more mummy or Papa...???

Bete....Your mummy loves you more or Papa....???

heyyyyy...hold on, I am not asking it to you all....

In fact these are the typical questions that has been always asked by our over-affectionate aunties when we were kid. These over-affectionate aunties never think that how can a child love one of his/her parent more than the other.....or how the love of one of his/her parent can be more or less than the other.

But when it comes to parental love, then mother's love is something which is always on the leading side, may be because fathers are very cool in showing their love and affection that they have for their kids.....but we all know that fathers are no way less when it comes to love their children.

You may agree that somehow or other mothers seem to be hogging the spotlight whenever its Mother's day. In fact its an open secret that we all spend days n weeks  for planning a prefect Mother's day gift, whereas for Father's day we don't seem to put much effort into it....and being a father I can tell that even Dads don't mind this, perhaps they are too cool for this.

Anyways, today is Father's day.....and I am missing my Dad a lot...

I would like to thank my dad for all he did for me and want to say that "so what if you are not here with us physically, we always feel your presence around us....I will never forget the values n morals you taught me to live this life, which would not have begun without you......"

Happy Father's day to all of you..... 

I know its very painful for people like me whose fathers are no more here with us.....Big hug to all of you......

Take care,

irfan.

**************************

Another year of togetherness....

"A successful marriage means falling in love many times, always with same person"

It seems like only couple of months back I had written this post here, but looking at the calender, I find that its one complete year now... This is how life goes, days after days, years after years, in short "life goes on"....and no need to mention that like every one else, we also had our good times along with some really  bad time during this year.....At this very moment once again I would sincerely like to thank all of you for your moral n emotional support, it really helped me a lot to come out from that moment.

As we all know that marriage is the process by which people who love each other make their relation public, official and permanent...though in our case, we started loving each other only when our parents made this relation public and official, as it was purely an arrange marriage.... I wish it would have been other way... :)

Anyways, coming to the point, marriage is joining of two people in a bond that last till death(leaving those who cut short this bond by divorce due to their own reasons), and over the course of this relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens....personalities change, bodies age and romantic love waxes n wanes and at times conflicts between the partners does arises....In fact no marriage is free of conflict because its just not possible to find another human being whose every habits and preferences aligns perfectly with us, so it depends on the couple how they handle that conflict.

Actually the fundamental challenge in any relationship is figuring out how to negotiate with their partner's irritants in a way that does not effect their relation and keep the two of them connected. Moreover my personal experience of these many years has taught me that if people want to stay in a relationship then as an individual something needs to change and it starts from our self.

Few days back I was reading somewhere that "marriage offers people a substantial happiness boost"...and according to some research reports "strong, warm, fulfilling interpersonal relationship makes people happy".....

Now one may say that a lifelong bond with a friend or sibling can also make people happy, then why to marry with an strange just for the sake of happiness when that happiness can be felt without getting married.....well, in my view apart from living all those relations, leading a married life is also necessary because having spouse apart from momentary happiness also confers many other goods on us, like -- children, intimacy, domestic n financial support and above all companionship in our old age......

Well, enough on that I think..... :)

Allow me to leave here.....
Its time for us to spend this moment together ;)

Have a nice weekend,

irfan.

*****************************

Thursday Challenge ( 1 ) -- BIG (Vehicles, Building, Sky etc....)

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

My first ever Thursday Photo Challenge post.......... 

More Participants here

-----------------------------------------------------------

Vehicle

Any guess about this vehicle....????

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Building

The top most circular floor of the building enclosed with glass is a revolving restaurant (Pind Balluchi)  and one can see entire city of Patna from here.

-----------------------------------------------------------------------

Sky / Mountain

A view from the Scotland of India

"The Sky is the Limit"

************************