holding together....

Since last couple of months after reading some beautiful and thoughtful Poems at few blogs, i was trying myself to pen one, but unfortunately was not able to do because after putting all effort, in the end what i could get was in no way a Poetry but very close to prose. But thanks to my blogger friend Sancheeta Biswas of ”sensitivity” who edited my "half prose-half poetry" so beautifully that finally i am able to post a Poetry here.

Thank you so much Sancheeta ji for making it possible for me to post a poetry here. I know without your help and support it would never had been a Poetry again.....and you know what it was before your editing......

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you and a cup of tea.

the vapor is the flavor of your wishes.

let the vapor not reside your spects

let your vision be clear where i can rest.

for i will be the tissue,

wiping off hazy glasses,

to make you see more clear 

let me kiss your eyelashes.

make me feel more near

you are mine and my cheer

a touch, a rub and affection

a cup of tea and me in perfection

my fingers roll on yours

holding the cup together.

a sip, a dip together

with all verses of emotions,

let it last for ever.

Girl in a rainy night......

It was about 9:30 in the night and was raining heavily, standing at the road side i was waiting for a taxi. After few moments i saw a girl of about 22 years coming out there, perhaps she was also looking for a taxi and in the process was unsuccessfully trying to protect herself from the rain.... in the mean time a boy of about the same age group of that of her, also came there.

I observed that the boy while standing there was staring and smiling at the girl, and perhaps he was trying his best to make that girl feel comfortable there. In the mean time all three of us were trying to stop the taxis n autos passing by there, but in-vain.

During the process we asked each other about our destinations and started talking in a friendly atmosphere. In the mean time a taxi came and girl boarded into it and after knowing that the boy also has to go to the same locality where she had to go, she asked him to share the same taxi as no other taxi was available and looking at the situation the boy obliged her gladly by getting into the taxi. As i had to go to the other direction so waited there for another ten minutes till i got one taxi and reached my destination.

Next morning when i narrated the whole story to some of my friends at the work place they almost unanimously said that, for sure the girl would have been a prostitute, so she took the boy with her in the same taxi..... I could not say them any thing but was thinking "why these people can't take it as a good human gesture by that girl....?

Because somehow with my observation there, i strongly believe that she can't be of that type, what my wise friends were claiming her to be.

Expressing Love with Time n Technology....

As we all know that in ancient times during early period of civilisation, when there was no language for them to interact with each other, people used to express themselves with certain facial expressions and indications...Historians believe that, prime reasons behind the development of language must have been Food, Security and Expression of Love n Sexual desire....

And in the long run with the development of language, people stared innovating new ways to express their Love and feelings, such as....Smiling, Staring, Wandering around, Leaving a note into books, writing their name together into a heart on trees n walls,  giving flowers n gifts etc...etc....

But after doing all this, just a two minutes affair of telling "I LOVE YOU" to each other was still a problem for them, and they used to take months and years for the right moment to come...So, just to avoid this two minutes nerve breaking situation, people started using "LOVE LETTER TECHNOLOGY"....

In fact for a long period of time this "LOVE LETTER TECHNOLOGY" was the most suitable n appropriate means for them, there was a sense of security into it, as the chances of situation getting adverse was less with love letters.

But slowly over the period of time these colourful Love letters were replaced by Telephones and Mobile Phones....Actually Phones have become an integral part of our Love Stories now, even the Bollywood heroes started telling.........."What is your mobile number????

But problem of saying 'I LOVE YOU" for the first time was still there, because after all Phone is not something which could enhance one's courage and confidence, so that He or She could simply dial a number and say  "Hello, I Love you"....

Therefore, to make it more easier n safer, people started sending some friendly n romantic SMSs with these Mobile Phones and keep on waiting for an affirmative reply from the other end, and once they start getting green signal in the form of SMSs, they could easily move forward and express their Love....

And now with the use of modern technologies n techniques our Gen-next has gone miles ahead, and before expressing their love to some one, they use search engines to look for some one who fits into their criteria and whom they can love, in their own way of course.....

So, for most of them expressing their love is no more a "Two Minutes Nerve Breaking" phenomenon now, rather its like making strategy before expressing their love to some one....and this LOVE, starting from search engines and then walking hand-in-hand in social networking sites,  happily ends with a "one night stay together"........

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here i leave you with a  typical n traditional Love Letter which i had read some where earlier...........

आप से जब कुछ कहने का ख्याल आया 

बड़े  जतन से हमने लबों को सजाया 

राह में जब भी आप नज़र आते थे

लबों पे सजाये हर बोल बिखर जाते थे

आज तक आपसे कुछ कह न पाये 

हार के अपने जज़्बात इस काग़ज़ पे सजाये 

यूं तो ज़्यादा नहीं बस इतनी सी ख़्वाहिश है

एक साफ सुथरे प्यार की नुमाइश है

हाँ कह देना अगर ये प्यार कुबूल है

ना कह देना अगर यह मेरी कोई भूल है

probably some of you might have got one like this at some point in ur life :)

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Forget n Forgive....

All of us have been hurt, betrayed or humiliated...and more often this is done by some one very close to us....May be a parent, a sibling, a friend or a spouse...and when that happens, it gives bitter resentment....it forms something like gangrene with in us, which in turn becomes a grudge in our heart against those people.

And from here we start thinking to extract our pound of flesh or simply we want to take revenge....and perhaps this unquenchable desire for revenge is quite natural for every human being.

But why do we think of revenge, when someone hurts us knowingly or otherwise???

Well, one of the most important reason is that we no longer want to live with that grudge, instead we want to feel better....and once some how we take revenge, we start feeling relieved we start consoling our self that now its ok and we have extracted our pound of flesh.

But here is the twist, couple of days back, i read an article about taking revenge and forgiveness, it says "the best way to feel better after being hurt is not through revenge but forgiveness"....The author says "forgive your enemy because it offers tremendous psychological and physical benefits".... it further says, "When you forgive, you no longer go through your life emotionally handcuffed to the person who hurt you".

But my question is, "if forgiveness really has so much benefit for us, then why many of us insist on revenge and resentment?"

One reason may be that because we equate forgiveness with weakness or capitulation....we believe that forgiving means saying that we were wrong and someone else who somehow did wrong to me was right.

But according to the author of the article, "forgiveness is not about letting the other person off the hook, rather its about pulling the knife out of your own gut."

What i like most about the article is, it says "while our whole life is coloured with ideas of revenge and bitterness, the other person blissfully remains unaware of our misery and doesn't feel anything bad."

And finally i have come to a conclusion that  "its always good for our body and the soul to forgive them who hurt us"....but again, its not that easy always....

what do you think ????.....

"twelve yrs of togetherness"

The institution of marriage was started with an objective that a man and a woman might learn how to love, and in loving know  "Joy"....

That a man and a woman might learn how to share pain and loneliness, and in sharing know  "Strength"....

That a man and a woman might learn how to give, and in giving know the "act of sharing" or "holding in common"....

The institution of marriage began so that a man and a  woman, through their Joy, through their Strength and through their act of sharing might become creator of life itself....

Marriage therefore is a high and holy state to be held in honour among all men and women....!!!

As a married man i never made tall claims about my conjugal relationship, but off course there were moments which we did enjoyed with each other and now i feel that a relation which started as a mere social contract, remains a closely guarded contract for the better part of our lives that we are enjoying in this universe.

I am not saying that it has been a "happily married life" through out, because at times there were problems for us as well. Some times a living together did looked like a struggle together for a better living. And during these many years of our marriage, we resolved problems more than enjoying conjugal bliss...

And today when we have completed twelve years together in this social contract, and the next generation is quietly developing in our cots. Our union is solely aimed at grooming them well now, with personal whims and fantasies sacrificed in the attar of life...

As twelve years passed today, hopefully many more to follow, yet struggle continues... And still comrade-in-arms with me to share all joys and sorrow about to come...

So you may bless her at-least,  for all her support to me during all ups n downs of the day-to-day life and for  tolerating me so far in this institution of marriage.... 

(after 12 yrs of "wear n tear" in struggle together)

"the other woman"

in our society Woman who is not legally related to an individual, but some how fall in love with a person who is already married is called "other woman".... As you all know, extra marital affair is not something very uncommon these days. In fact where ever you are, developed or under developed country these type of relations are very common to exist...

And because of some recent happenings at my work place my idle mind started thinking about the mental status of these so called 'Other Women", In fact one of the lady, who happened to be in  relation with a married man, wanted social recognition of their relationship from him, but as usual the man being already married was not at all in a mood to surface their relationship story....

Now, you may agree that there is a general feeling that these "other women" devour on physical needs more than the mental attachment, but if you find and talk to some one who is indulged in such relationship, will find them saying that they are into it more for mental satisfaction and not for physical or anything else....

And after having a friendly chat with these people, i personally feel that, "Other women" comes in life due to lack of satisfaction from their legal partners, and this lack of satisfaction may not necessarily be SEX in most of the cases, in fact there may be plenty of sexual doses in their legal relationship, but what they find missing is the "mental angle" between them.

Lets not forget that these women, mostly when they are associated with a married man, are not only lonely but are also scorned by their near ones...and the first and foremost thing they want from their partner, apart from love is "true sense of identity and of course the meaning of the life that they lead".....

But how many of men can openly come out and say that they value the other women in their lives??? Perhaps no one, its the women who cries for the identity for rest of her life and men always enjoy their life with two women....his 'legal woman" and "other woman".....

"Vulgar Laughter Shows"

While watching a famous Laughter show on TV, I was thinking of my student life period, when Indian humour was best known by its "Kavi Sammalens", traditional gathering where noted Poets waxed eloquent about Social and Political issues......But things have changed now, may be because of the fact that the Politicians being corrupt is no longer a funny thing, but its pain full.....

Today Indian comedy shows are a charade, they have banal and vulgar jokes, too much impersonation and plagiarism, the semi nudes sexy looking anchors...and top on all, the Judges of the show, who laugh so hard, it seems forced.... Most claim to be funnier than they are....

It all happened may be because the audience for the humor has changed . In fact we are so advanced now that one can call a woman "sexy", without insulting her feelings.Where as earlier "sensuous" would be the correct word.

In fact the realty is, we are now in an era where Rakhi Sawant and Dolly Bindra is being ranked as icons...where our youth just gets crazy while listening "Bheege Honth Tere" and "Shiela Ki Jawani"..where every thing is valued on its TRP.....

Why can't we have a "Laughter Show" with......
Humor that makes you think?

Humor that provokes society to evolve?