Sex Sells....

Looking at the title of this post, some of you might be thinking that what happened to this man who has been always writing about dry and boring subjects, is talking about SEX here....so let me make it clear that even today I am not going to write erotic stories or how to win your man or woman during the period because I personally believe that there is no bookish way to follow and win your loved one during the process but it all depends upon individuals and the mutual relation of the couples.....

Anyways, coming on to the subject..... I have been a regular reader of couple of leading political and current affairs magazines, but while going through one of the recent issue of such magazine, I thought like reading DEBONAIR  or something similar to that. There were full pages of Condoms advertisements and rest of the pages were carrying a survey report based on sexual life and behavior of today's India......

Now just to mention some of the survey results here.......

i :- 48% husbands say their ideal partner is not their wife.....

ii :- 55% men say there is more infidelity because of more women in the work place....

iii :- For 55% men their first sexual partner was other than their wife....

iv :- 24% are open to one night stand....

v :- 27% parents believe that their child is sexually active and above that 73% of them have accepted it and kept quite....

Now when I start looking into my surrounding and the people whom I know since decades, most of the couple look like an ideal match for each other, so if the survey is right then are these thousands of couple simply pretending to be ideal......well I don't think its possible to do so for decades....Do you think so....???

Now if infidelity is more because of more working women then I suggest these survey people to go to rural India and feel the pulse of the nation, I am sure    this    report will be proved wrong and it does not have to do anything with women at work place or not....

Similarly survey report claims that 24% women are ready for one night stand, well I don't know who these 24% women are because I am desperately looking for one and could not find any.... may be I am too old now......

Now the 73% of the total 23% parents are reported to be keeping quite and accepting that let their chidren be active sexually....now, do you all think that these many of Indian parents are that modern...and how many of you parents out here will accept it quietly.....if you ask me then "I CAN'T".... may be I am too orthodox or too old fashioned.....

Not only this, the learned editor of this premier magazine claims that "This survey is the most trusted indication of how Indian men and women pursue the intimate pleasure of life and it brings the larger story of Indian's private life".....

Now, i just like to ask this learned editor that "what useful purpose does it serve to conduct a sex survey in which you go to Metros and pick up just 5365 people and come up with a report claiming it to be India's picture as a whole????

Don't you think that these bogus surveys are bound to encourage our youth to give up their principles and go mad behind sexual pleasure????

How do you think that a mere 5365 respondents from metros are to stand statistically valid across the nation????

Well, i can understand that Sex sells and each one of you is determined to out do others with such issues and your sale graph might have gone up after this, butttttttt did you ever thought(even for a second) that based on such bogus reports, our youths are bound to think that there are good chances of getting involved in sexual pleasure in every city and one has to do only is take few chance.....???

Moreover while going through your report I felt that you seem to think that there is no holiness, moral character, respect for marriage n sex left now in society  and all of us are animals not humans anymore......

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Surviving Winter.....

Hello friends....

All of you living in Northern or Eastern part of India, very well be knowing that how the temperature is falling every minute in these part of India.....Well, the mercury level is dropping down every minute like the morality falls in our day-to-day life.... :(

Frankly speaking, since last couple of days, instead of living my life out of the comfort of my warm blanket, i am seriously thinking about going into hibernation. Butttttttttttttttttt for some one like me(a middle class Indian) earning bread n butter is perhaps much more important then thinking about those comfort of  life.......

I remember, during my childhood my mother would heat the water, give me a bath, wipe me and wrap me in a Razai, making it sure that I was ready to fight every minute falling mercury level. Even I used to have my dinner form her hands while hiding myself totally inside that Razai....Actually back then winter did not seem as harsh as it seems now....THANK YOU  MOM :)

But now, may be because of AXE EFFECT( AGE EFFECT actually), this lowering mercury level making it difficult for me to live a normal life.....

Every night before going into sleep, I ask myself  "Should I wake up early in the morning and go for a walk or stay back in the comfort of my warm blanket for another two hours.....???"

While having my morning tea, instead of concentrating on the newspaper in my hand, I keep on thinking "Should I take bath or not...???"  And if I am not taking bath "should i spend some time inside the bathroom and come out after sprinkling some water into my hair so that others don't come to know that i didn't take bath....."

Again in the evening after coming back from workplace, I am in dilemma  "Should I wash my face or not...???"    If not,  "should I stay for a while inside the bathroom keeping the tap open and pretend to be fresh when I come out.....???"

Well, you might be smiling now on my cowardliness but for me taking these decisions are not that easy and that makes the winter even more bitter for me....... :(

Buttttttttttt after all these hardships of winter,  out of all the weathers, I like Winter most because....

"Surviving Winter together brings the couple closer"....isn't it....???

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Life goes on.....

We all know that life is full of events....Sometimes they are good and at times bad too......

Events happen in every body's life and with every event and happening there comes emotion attached with it. Indeed there is a lesson too for us in every thing that happens in our day-to-day life.

As you all know that just recently I had to go through a situation which I never thought of and so was never mentally prepared for it. Even when I shared that with all of you here at my blog, I was not sure what the end result will be. But now after about more than a month, I firmly believe that God is always there to take care of all of us and whatever it is, will be the best for my family and myself(Insha Allah).

I may not get all what I lost but hopefully I will be able to have again what I need because I have a feeling that the universe wants us to make  happy and it is certainly going to give what one need even if it may not give what one want.......

And this is how our life goes perhaps.........

"SOMETHING  TO TELL - SOMETHING  TO LEARN"

At times life does look like a game board.......... 

"WE   WIN SOME - WE  LOOSE  SOME"

People changes and things too go wrong, butttttttttt.......

"LIFE  GOES  ON"

In fact its like a movie to watch while smiling through tear filled eyes......

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PS:  Thanks a lot friends for all that moral n emotional support you gave during this tough period of mine....it does mean a lot to me and my family.......
i will be visiting all ur blog space one by one....i know its a long break this time but will try to catch up with all of you.....Thanks again... :)

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जाने कैसी साज़िश  हुई 

(Jaane kaisi saazish hui)

मेरा घर मिट्टी का था 

(Meraa ghar mitti ka tha)

मेरे  ही  घर  बारिश  हुई  

(Mere hi ghar baarish hui)

 :(    :(     :(

Hello friends, going through very tough moments.....About two weeks back there was a theft case in my home and i lost every thing.....lodged an FIR, tried hard with all the social and administrative contacts i had but nothing seems to be working and the efficient police force blaming me that why did i left my house unmanned for one day and asking me to name the culprit, the investigating officer advised me yesterday to forget about the incident and warned me not to leave the home unmanned next time....... i know, i am one bloody fool who left my home unmanned for one day and if at all i knew the culprit i would not have waited for the police to act, rather i would have kicked him on his ass and taken care of every thing that was needed.......but unfortunately its not so and forgetting about all those things that i earned in my twenty years of service period is not so easy for me......

Anyways, just trying to start life again...need your wishes n blessings......

Blind race of Life.....

If we see around us, we find everybody is in a hurry and people are simply running to get something....

"Na jaane kis manzil ki talaash hai sabko"

(God knows, what we all are looking for)

We all are running towards our goal without even thinking about anyone else. In this blind race of our life we don't even notice when our childhood has left us on the way and when our youthfulness has turned away its face from ourselves.

In the end when we stop after this long tiring journey and start looking at the balance sheet of our life, we find that what we achieved is Career, Position and finally some money........and then we start thinking that, "is this the only motto of our life....????"

In fact today, most of us are in the grip of materialism, where there is hardly any space for emotions....where we try hard to make our balance sheet heavy at the cost of our emotions n relations and finally when we look back into our entire journey, we think.....

"Yaar, paise to bahut kamaaye, lekin khushiyaan na kamaa sake"

(we did earned lot of money but couldn't earn the joy n peace)

"makaan to aalishaan banaa liyaa, lekin ghar na banaa sake"

(we did made a huge luxurious building but couldn't make it a home)

In fact in this materialistic age most of us try resisting ourselves from following our heart and those who follow their heart and give value to emotions, we call them "CRAZY"..... Perhaps  we don't understand that following our heart means being human actually....

In fact we just don't remember that we are not a machine whose efficiency is rated on its horse power and the amount of profit it can deliver for its owner.... But, we must not forget that there must be some difference between machines and humans.....

I think today in this fast-paced  21st century life we all need to take time to allow our souls to catch up with our bodies.......

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Sharing these lines with all of you which i had read somewhere......

Zindgi ki is daud mein daud ke karnaa kya hai

Yehi jeena hai doston to phir marnaa kya hai

Kab doobte hue suraj ko dekha tha yaad hai?

Kab jaana tha shaam ka woh dhalnaa kya hai?

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Joy of Life....

Festive season is on. After "Durga Pooja"  here comes the festival of lights "Diwaali" and if you are from Bihar or Eastern Uttar Pradesh then "Chhath" festival is also not very far away. In fact these festivals give us a break  from the tiring pace of hectic day-to-day life and get ourselves refreshed. Actually the origin of these festivals is from the philosophy of sharing our joyful moments with our friends and relatives.

Few days back I got an invitation card saying, "your presence can change this small occasion into a festival for us", it means that if we share our little joyful moments with each other keeping our heart open, then we can make these small moments of our life as great and joyful as any big festival can be.

The great philosopher Sukrat said "People look for wealth, property, social status etc and struggle to get these through out their life but for me spending some quality time with my dear ones is the most satisfying and joyful"...... but unfortunately today in the rat race of earning name n fame, we don't have time to share our joyful moments with our friends n relatives and even the festivals are being celebrated within the fore walls of our two bed room flats......

In fact, "rising of sun", "blooming of flowers", "fulfillment of our tiny wishes", "meeting with our old lost friends" and "a sip of hot coffee with our loved ones"....these are the moments which can give us joy, happiness and a sense of satisfaction too, provided we share them properly n honestly with our relatives and friends......

Our priorities and their outcome....

There is a common saying........"Change is the law of nature"

And rightly so......Because every thing within us and around us changes with time...with age...and with circumstances.

And so does our priorities.....Yes, our priorities also changes at different stages of our life, for example, when I was a kid , my priority was to have fun with anything or anyone around me. After few years when I raised a little in terms of age(being a five feet giant male, I still need to raise a little in terms of height), I started thinking about my studies and future career....And the moment these thoughts started coming into my idle mind, my priorities started changing and then the priority was to complete my studies with whatever resources I had and have a respectful life.... Once I completed my studies and got settled, my priorities again started changing and  were like getting married, having kids and get them admitted into descent schools....

And now, when things are somewhat smoothly settled into my personal n professional life, I have a feeling that once again my priorities are changing and this time my responsibilities are becoming my priorities......Yes, my personal responsibility like looking after my old aging mother(unfortunately I lost my dear father few years back and I can't even think of losing her), fulfilling the needs of my wife n kids and ensuring an environment for kids which can help them to become a good human being and in turn give them a respectful life too(INSHA ALLAH).... Apart from these personal responsibilities there are certain social responsibilities also which has to be given priority at times, because I personally feel that it is our social responsibility that keeps us bonded-together within the society.

Buttttttt sometimes I do feel that in the process of fulfilling these responsibilities I miss certain things which might have given some more amount of satisfaction to me on personal level...for example, recently one of my blogger friend and a popular blogger Alpana Jaiswal came to Patna and she was kind enough to inform me about her arrival. The moment I came to know about her Patna visit, I was excited to meet a blogger in person and had a plan to spend some nice time with our families together. I did visited her place for very short amount of time to meet her and was really nice meeting her with her daughter and mother. But unfortunately, the very next day of that short meet I had to leave Patna to attend some social get-together at my native village(again a social responsibility turned into priority). And somehow I am still not able to meet her again....Sorry Alpana ji, hopefully we will meet again at some other place if not at Patna(INSHA ALLAH).

Perhaps this is what our life is, that sometimes we are just not able to do what  actually we want to....

Is it because of our pre-defined priorities...???.....OR just  co-incidence...???

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